Parenting after a Loss

SAHMs

Any tips on how to get your lo to stay with someone other than you? I SAH and EBF so Annabelle is pretty much constantly with me. The only time I really "leave her" is when she goes to the nursery at church. We started putting her in there at about 2.5 months because the doctor told us to keep her away from other kids for the first two months because of how small she was, and than she was sick for a few weeks. At first she did pretty well over all and only really got upset if she was hungry, but I've been pretty good about timing her feedings well so she doesn't generally need to eat during service.

The last few weeks I feel like I'm constantly getting called in because she wont stop crying and as soon as I take her she's fine. I'm guessing it's because she's now more aware of her surroundings so she realizes I'm gone? Our pastor's wife is in there the most often so she's better with her than the other ladies but it's a small church so there are only 6 or so ladies aside from myself that work the nursery so they should all be pretty familiar to her. She usually lasts about 20 minutes of playing with them before she realizes that I'm not there and she gets hysterical, any ideas on how to get her better about being away from me? It's really getting frustrating spending all of that time in the nursery consoling her and I feel bad for the ladies who are wasting their time being in the nursery when I spend the whole service in there anyway. If we weren't so involved in our church I'd probably have given up and started staying home already, and I really do want to be able to leave her with someone other than my husband if I need to do something with out her. Any ideas would be great. Thanks.

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    I don't have any advice but I'm curious what others have to say. DD is over 6m old and she's been with DH or me every second of her life. We're tossing around the idea of letting my step sister watch her, but I think we may face the same separation anxiet
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    Oh I wiah I had a magic solution. I actually left a voicemail on my mom's phone for when they watch Alice. Last time, Alice was losing.her.mind so my mom called me and put me on speaker. That calmed her down enough to take a paci, then she played just

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  • Well DS has only been with my mom or MIL if we go out. So I think there is a level of comfort there since they are familiar faces that she sees several times a week. Maybe I would start there if you have someone who LO sees often or even your H for a f

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  • DD is EBF and has had trouble gaining weight so she eats every 1-2 hours during the day.  On top of that she refuses all bottles, so I feel your pain about her being very attached.  I joined the Y and work out 3-5 days a week so she stays in the
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  • DD is pretty good about being left so I don't have much advice there.

    Can you just take her into church with you?
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  • Thanks ladies for all of your responses. We don't have any family near by so I don't really have the option of leaving her with a family member during the week. She does get passed around quite a bit at church before/after service when I am around sinc

  • My daughter still does this now and then when I drop her at the nursery at church, and she's almost 2....  But each week I leave her there it gets a little easier and the crying fits get shorter.  

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  • I will occasionally leave DD, but never for more than a couple of hours... and usually more like 45 minutes at the gym. For her it just depends on who she's with. She's gone through a couple of periods of separation anxiety, though, too, where I can't lea
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