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Stopping breastfeeding, support needed!

The RsThe Rs
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Initially it was very hard adjusting my 2 yr old son and myself to a newborn. I was feeding him at the breast, then bottle and pumping to get my supply up and it didn't leave much time for my toddler. I was having anxiety and starting to resent having to spend so much time with my youngest while my toddler wanted me too. Eventually we got to six weeks and my newborn just started doing better that he didn't need to always be on my hop. nbsp;Our breastfeeding was finally getting better, my confidence was up that we were making it, i had an over supply, my toddler adjusted, and we were getting a routine down between my husband and I. nbsp;nbsp;nbsp;At 10 1/2 weeks, my husband and I weren't seeing eye to eye on the normal everyday things, and I was just upset with everything. nbsp;I kept thinking I just needed some time away from the kids and the husband. nbsp;That night I felt like I lost the bility to feed my lil one. I couldn't letdown the milk and my anxiety was in full hostile mode. I struggled to feed him for the Next 5 days and that's where I am now. I'm giving up breStfeeding because of my own inability to provide for my lil one. I've tried relaxing and thinking happy thoughts but our breastfeeding isn't the same. It's taken a huge toll on my family that no one is happy. nbsp;My milk supply has dropped drastically with all the missed feedings and no pumping that I can't take it anymore. But I miss the closeness and bonding and can't help blame myself for not being able to something that just last week we were rocking. I just hate myself cor being selfish and now its robing my son of fresh breastmilk and me of this bonding. nbsp;
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Re: Stopping breastfeeding, support needed!

  • bobcatstephbobcatsteph member
    I'm sorry about your stress. Have you considered talking to your dr/ob about PPD/PPA?
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  • The RsThe Rs
    I have, she said I possibly have both and I tried taking something and it made everything worse. It has been a terrible week for the family!
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  • kcircellkcircell
    Being a parent sometimes means making such difficult decisions, FF may very well be what is best for your family and that is ok, don't feel bad or the need to justify. You'll find many many ways to bond with you new little over time too. The post partum p
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  • RobinR91RobinR91 member
    I'm glad you spoke with your dr. Did you tell them the meds made everything worse? There might be alternatives. I know there is a great support board on the bump for PPD too. Maybe those ladies can help.

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  • The RsThe Rs
    I'm trying so hard to just focus that he'll grow and be healthy even without my breastmilk. I hate that I did this to us.
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  • The RsThe Rs
    Thank you! I want to make peace with it and move forward for everyone including myself.
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  • The RsThe Rs
    I don't like taking meds in the first place but it was so bad that I thought I needed to take something. I'm going to try asking the ppd ladies for ways of coping. It's better when I'm not in meds.
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  • The RsThe Rs
    Thank you ladies for the support!
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    I'm trying so hard to just focus that he'll grow and be healthy even without my breastmilk. I hate that I did this to
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  • vrj0522vrj0522 member

    Doing what will help you and your family be happy is the best thing you can do, even if that means giving up BF'ing. I personally hated the whole experience (except for the bonding obviously) but I knew that it was the best for my LO so I rea

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  • sosophsosoph member

    Mine are 21 mos apart. I decided that I would bf my second so long as the effort to do so didn't compromise our family life or my parenting our first. I felt I had to look more at the whole picture this time instead of just the bf.

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  • The RsThe Rs
    I hate that I didn't give him a chance to get weaned off. I lost my confidence to feed him properly. Many people told me that there are some bad days in BF and to charge through. But seeing the worry on my husband's face and a crying baby I just lost what
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