WWYD (re: a friend and car seat safety)

Summer20 · April 2013

I know I don't really post here, but I really need some "anonymous" advice and would love to hear your thoughts.

I was at a playgroup yesterday with a group of women I've known for about 6 months. The host was telling a story about her daughter falling asleep in the car and then said "and since I don't usually buckle her shoulder straps she was slumped over". I was pretty shocked, clearly that is extremely dangerous for the child, but didn't want to put her on the spot, especially in her own home. The conversation continued and there didn't seem to be a tactful way to bring it up again.

However, this has been bugging me all day. I really feel a responsibility to say something to her, but how? We are not especially close (we really don't socialize outside of the playgroup) and I don't want to start any drama. I just would never forgive myself if something happened to that child.

What would you say? Thanks so much.

gracefulruby33 · April 2013

I think the window has passed for bringing it up, depending on how well you know her. If you want to say something, is there a way to park next to her and then leave together so you're there when she buckles up her kid? As far as what to say, I would flat

Summer20 · April 2013

I know, believe me I wish I had said something then. It was one of those things where I was a bit distracted and then was too shocked to say anything and then it seemed weird to backtrack...

Anyway, too late now, but I could email or text

Firefly1220 · April 2013

I think it sounds reasonable. Be nice and not confrontational, maybe include a link to the Visual Guide to Car Seat Safety (google it).

boogerbearoriginal · April 2013

Summer20:
I know, believe me I wish I had said something then. It was one of those things where I was a bit distracted a

zora33 · April 2013

when you have another play date make sure to get her alone in a room where you two can chat. Theres a lot you can do and ask. Don't condem her just see what her thoughts are on it and ask the question Why she leaves the straps undone. I'm sure you will ge

preggersin2011 · April 2013

Sadly there is a reason why the statistics are 4 of 5 car seats are not used properly.... there are tons of things that the other parent's have said during drop off/ pick up at school that made me say to myself wft. I don't think there is anyway you can s

addam&tara · April 2013

You could pretend that you just read an article about kids not being buckled right and you thought she should know.... or something along those lines. As if you had no clue about it either and how you would've wanted to know that's why you're telling her.

LMBecky11 · April 2013

I am pretty shocked by this too. I know I have been told by friends that they switch their kids forward facing before they should for whatever reasons and stuff, but I haven't know of anyone who didn't buckle them. That is def not good. I am also surprise

BabyCampbell312 · April 2013

I'm usually the first of my friends and of our play group to say if something isn't right or looks unsafe. I could careless if the woman doesn't like me anymore. I would consider contacting her and saying something. Maybe she worded it wrong and it's a

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