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December 2010 Moms
xxbabycakesxx
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I'm really upset
xxbabycakesxx
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So in the school division we live in, theres no preschool. School starts at 5 yo in kindergarten. There is a family drop in (for kids aged 0-4) thingy thats like preschool in that its led by a teacher, its 4x a week for 2 hrs and its a bit structured. Its not like preschool in that the parent stays, you can come and go as you please within the 2 hrs and miss classes if you can't come. I just started taking G by myself but only when DH is at home to watch B cause I didn't think I could handle both of them and DH doesn't want to attend these classes. This morning I attempted to take both kids by myself. Bad idea.
Griff got into a fight with another boy (4 yo and totally bigger than G) there. He grabbed one of the toys the other boy was playing with. I was sitting right there but B was in my lap so I couldn't remove G and discpline him, like I'd normally do at home, and it just happened so fast. The boy came over and tried taking his car back but G leaned back and the other boy was sorta leaning over G. G pushed him forward and then they started hitting each other. I tried to grab Gs arm and tug him away but by that time the teacher had come over.
I don't know why I'm so upset. The rational side of me is thinking that yea these things happen and thats how G will learn to behave and share and play with others. The irrational dramatic mama bear side of me is thinking ugh that kid smacked G so hard he left marks! I feel like its my fault cause I brought B knowing I couldn't keep a close eye on G. And I just can't get Gs scared sad crying face out of my head. I know he was the one that took the toy but I really should've been watching him carefully. And I know I should just toughen up cause this is probably the first of many scuffles but I'm just really upset at the moment. Thanks for letting me vent or whatever this is.
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Re: I'm really upset
::hugs:: I'm sorry. I would probably feel all mama bear ragey as well, but you're right, it's probably a life lesson for G. And, if it makes you feel better, he's probably already forgotten all about it.
So sorry! Hope the rest of your day goes b
See, I really don't know how 4 yo's are supposed to act and behave and in a way I still feel like its my fault (and Gs) since hes the one who took the toy away. We're still in the process of learning to take turns but hes getting better at it at
Oh man, i'd be discouraged too! Where was the 4 year old's mother? You can't be the only one having to look after the kids. And I agree with PPs that incidents like this will happen and that 2 years is a significant age difference and
the mixed age group thing sounds rough. I hope it was a learning experience for both kids (G and the older boy...not that B would have learned anything from it.)
Don't beat yourself up over the situation. These things happen and it's no big deal.
Honestly? This wouldn't even register on my upset scale. Kids fight. Heck, even grown men fight if one takes the other one's stuff. A 4yo should know better but they still lack the impulse control to handle it in real time. &nbs
I wouldn't beat yourself up about it either. I don't think the 4 year old is really old enough to know better though, and of course neither is G. Hitting and getting into scuffles is definitely part of their learning! So I wouldnt' feel bad if I
sdpookie- I think the other boys dad was talking to another mom but he wasn't anywhere nearby. He did apologize later and said his boy can be aggressive and I apologized too. I know I have to leave him eventually but I just wanted to try ac
It is hard in situations like that and I have definitely let my mama bear out once or twice in public situations. You are really doing a great thing by letting him socialize in a situation where you can chaperone more closely than a teacher who had 6 k
So I literally just got a text from my daycare provider saying that C was playing with a toy by herself and another little girl came over and pushed her and scratched her cheek. She just wanted to let me know and to apologize for it happening.&nb
I'm sorry momma. It's hard to know when to intervene and when to let them learn through experience. And it's rough to see them sad.
B's daycare has 3 teachers for 15 students and he still manages to shove and hit and be shoved and hit.&
BFP #2 5/27/12. EDD 2/1/13. m/c and D&C 6/21/12.
I'm sorry that happened and that you felt like it was your fault!!
I really don't think it was at all. You got a lot of good advice from pp about the situation, so I don't have much to add to what happened, BUT I do have a suggestion for