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16 month old and sleep training

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My hubby and I did sleep training with DD at 9 months and it worked fine after a few night. She'd go down by herself, instead of rocking, and fall asleep. Problem is that now, she will go down and STILL not stay down all night. She still wants to nurse and while we've got that down to only about twice a night (and yes, I know she doesn't need to, because she only comfort nurses for a few minutes at most and then USUALLY goes back to sleep so that's an issue). But she doesn't STTN yet, never has, and in fact a good night (which is rare) she will sleep 6 hours straight, get up, nurse a little, go right back down until 4 or 5 am, and then comes to bed with me while my husband either gets up early for work or sleeps on the couch.

So I'm looking for sleep training advice. We hate cry it out, but it worked last time and everything else seems to delay or confuse her. My husband and I are thinking of combining weaning (since she doesn't really nurse anyway) and sleep training to get her to stop coming to bed with us AND to go back to sleep if she wakes at night. To that end, we figured we'd do Ferber like we did before - go in at intervals, NOT get her out of bed, and not nurse (my husband is better because she doesn't expect him to pick her up and nurse/rock her).

 What I'm wondering is really little things: what time should we end it in the morning, if she's been crying? 5 am? Get her up and start the day or should we try until her normal wake-up time, whether she's fallen asleep or cried the whole time or not?

How do I stop feeling conflicted? Her sleeping with me is fine with me, I like to wake up with her in the morning, but my husband has been going to the couch for months because of it or going to work early (which is sometimes fine) because he doesn't feel comfortable sleeping with her (plus, he snores and keeps everyone awake. So I know this is necessary but I still feel like I will miss her. But I also know that she is confused - sometimes at night she goes back to bed, but sometimes she gets to get up and go to bed with mommy and she doesn't know when that is, and I think that is contributing to her waking up. 

So, really, any advice would be great.

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  • genekellygenekelly member

    We just went through something similar with our 21 month old.  He didn't start STTN until ~18 mo.  Even then it was only 3-4x a week and the other nights he would be up 1x, DH would give him a bottle and then he went back to sleep, no problem

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