i just lost it on DD

acesup · April 2013

my heart is racing and i am so angry... at her and at myself. she is becoming such a brat. constantly telling me no and giving me the biggest freakin attitude a 2 yr old can muster. now on top of saying "no" she says in a very teenager way "uh-uh". It literally is like nails on a chalkboard when she says it. i cant stand it. she is running around like a maniac in here and DS is trying to nap in the swing. i am not feeling good and hardly slept last night. DH is working OT and wont be home until after 11pm. everytime i tell her to do something she just says "uh-uh" and ignores me. so i lost it. i completely yelled at her and put her in a time out, which i had to carry her to because she wouldnt walk. i told her she was a brat. then as i walked away i said "i cant even stand you anymore".

my heart is broken that i could say that. i'm just so fed up with this behavior lately. i know she is adjusting to having a brother here, but this started before he even got here and it is like she did a complete 180. i'm tired of trying to bribe her to do things and failing miserably anyway. i'm tired of having the same argument with her every single day. i was so looking forward to spending more time with her while on maternity leave and that's why i dropped her down to 3 days/week at daycare. but then i just spend those other days arguing with her and putting her in time out for not listening to me. part of me feels like she doesnt want to be home with me. i dont want to constantly punish her but i'm not going to let her walk all over me and not listen to me ever and just tell me 'no' to everything. part of me wants to put her back in 5 days. which also makes me feel awful because i want to spend time with her but she is being so difficult. she is so different than she was 3 months ago. and at first it wasn't every day but lately it has become that way.

i just want to cry. if i can say that when she is 2 how am i going to handle her when she is actually a teenager?

/vent.

nanabanana06 · April 2013

Do we have the same kid? Rosie is just like this.

bearfootz · April 2013

I think we've all been there. At least I'll admit that I have. Time outs don't seem to work that well sometimes so I had to resort to putting toys on time out so that it showed a real consequence to bad behavior. That one hits them ha

LaurelBee · April 2013

I think the main crux of your frustration comes from lack of sleep. I get it- I'm right there with you. It's hard to not want to lose it with them!

A friend of mine is a child psychologist. She recommended a reward program for good be

emriley84 · April 2013

I have been in tears the last few days over DS#1s behavior. I know its an adjustment for all of us, but ahhhhhh. I'm ready to lose it most days. You're not alone!

acesup · April 2013

Thanks guys. I really like the positive reward jar idea!! I'm going to have to set that up.

MintBerryCrunch · April 2013

We started 123 Magic when DD began challenging us. It has worked wonders in a very short amount of time. And one of the key facets is no yelling, so you don't end up feeling like you do now. I've been there and it sucks.

nanabanana06 · April 2013

MintBerryCrunch:
We started 123 Magic when DD began challenging us. It has worked wonders in a very short amount of time. And

acesup · April 2013

Thanks! I will look into 123 magic as well! Ill try anything at this point because obviously what I'm doing isn't working for either of us

LaurelBee · April 2013

I think I need to read 123 magic too. We do the 321 countdown, but mostly Ds ignores me until I get to 1.

bgf1 · April 2013

I am bumping from my phone do I can't see how old your youngest is. When my dd was born dh was off for six weeks. After he went back to work my son and I had a terrible six weeks. He gave up napping, everything was a battle and he had constant tantru

LaceFace14 · April 2013

I'm sorry you're having a tough time with her. I'll admit I was kind of relieved to read this after having a similarly bad morning with DS. I took him to the park but within 5 minutes we were leaving because he wouldn't stop pinching/hitting/pushing other

jenmom2girls · April 2013

I feel ya, I really do. I was at my breaking point 2 weeks ago. I know it's probably just going to get worse when DD2 gets here.

cantalopes24 · April 2013

We mostly do positive reward system and it works really well. I also try to tell them what they should be doing vs no or what they shouldn't be doing. I also find that in situations where they are hurting anything it works better to ignore what they're do

wino2006 · April 2013

Take a deep breath. You are tired so you are working with low patience and low frustration tolerance as it is. Everyone is adjusting to a new human in the household. 2 is hard. I have had my moments that make me feel terrible as well-everyone does and any

J+MS · April 2013

We are having a rough time over here, too.

notkateanymore · April 2013

The best way to look at it is that she's only 2, she won't remember it. My daughter is one of, if not the most frustrating people on the Earth currently. So, I've been there, done that and have a couple of t-shirts. In the past, I've just explained to her