etiquette question

AAAAAteam · April 2013

SO here is the scenario.

You GIVE someone your childs hand me down clothes. Then you later see them selling it on Facebook. Although there is another family member with a child of that gender that could use it. Or they could donate it. But selling it after getting it isn't this poor etiquette? Trying to give freely.....but this annoys me.

FrickandFrack · April 2013

Did you request that they return them when done? If not, you can't really be mad about what they do with them. Typically if someone gives me hand me downs, I ask before giving to charity, etc. but that may not be the norm.

meg_2006 · April 2013

Rude IMO, but technically nothing wrong with it I suppose. Kinda weird that they are selling them almost right under your nose...maybe in the future you just sell them yourself!

Temp994124375009771 · April 2013

I wouldn't do anything about it because I chose to give the clothes away but yes it's tacky to sell clothes someone gave you and I would be annoyed.

AAAAAteam · April 2013

I agree, I need to give freely. But it is still annoying. I can't control what someone does with something after I give it to them. But I still think it's wrong to sell it after I just gave it to them. Also with anot

AAAAAteam · April 2013

And may I add I also have another child of the other gender who is younger than their child of that gender. And I have never received one hand me down from them for that child. Only works one way.

AAAAAteam · April 2013

Yeah true. I feel like everyone should know this etiquitte. Hence my invisible strings she doesn't know about. There is nothing I can do about it but stop giving my stuff to her. But for some reason I always get soft and want to he

hopecounts · April 2013

Tacky but technically OK since you gave them.

i would stop giving them the hand me downs and just sale them myself or give them to someone else.

LaurelBee · April 2013

I can't believe people are so Meh about it. It would royally annoy me!! I would absolutely stop giving her stuff. And I would probably post on FB something like "I can see you have no use for the clothes I gave you. I know of another family in need if

LaurelBee · April 2013

GhostMonkey:
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LittleFish1 · April 2013

SunnyDays26:
I personally would never do that. I do think it's in poor taste but I guess "technically" it's now their clothes to do

Ziegeficker · April 2013

I think that once you give it away, you don't have a say in what happens to it.

Monsieur_et_Madame_Ha · April 2013

I guess they're not in the wrong, per se, but I would still be very much annoyed.

LuckyDad · April 2013

It's tacky. Still, they may not remember where they got it from. I know we got a mix of gifts and hand me downs and didn't keep perfect track of what came from where. I think you're within your rights to look elsewhere for folks to give you hand me downs

MoonlitPlumeria · April 2013

I'd be annoyed, but I wouldn't say anything if it were a friend. But all of Z's hand me downs have gone to her cousins, so I'd probably say something to my sisters, but we generally rib each other for all kinds of stuff and feelings don't generally get

LaurelBee · April 2013

GhostMonkey:
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LaurelBee · April 2013

GhostMonkey:
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LaceFace14 · April 2013

I think it's super tacky. I sell my own stuff when I'm done with it but anything that was given to me, I offer it back and then donate it. I also generally decline clothes that people might want back because I'm afraid I will ruin it.

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FormerlyKrista555 · April 2013

They're allowed to do it, but I still would think they are kind of a crappy person for not passing on the generosity.

Barring all the what ifs like they couldn't feed their kids, or they didn't realize they were selling the donated items, I

laurakaz13 · April 2013

OP, I think it's irrational to feel this way, but I'd be annoyed too. Just stop giving them clothes.

robinsokj · April 2013

I've sold hand me downs at a yard sale. Like hell I was going to remember what was given and sort it.

NotSharknado · April 2013

You having an issue with this is tacky. You shouldn't have given anything away if you weren't willing to let go completely.

RondackHiker · April 2013

robinsokj:
I've sold hand me downs at a yard sale. Like hell I was going to remember what was given and sort it.
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RondackHiker · April 2013

krptcmschfmkr128:
I think it's tacky to sell clothing you were JUST given. If you didn't need it, don't take it. If you use it, the

EastCoastBride · April 2013

My only thought is that they are trying to sell all their clothes and they've lost track of what was given to them and what they bought. If this is the case, eh, whatever. We were given a lot of stuff and w/ clothes - I definitely lost trac

Smootchy · April 2013

It's tacky but not worth confronting.

When you have given her hand me downs, is it more so you saying, "I have stuff for you." and her like, 'ok. thanks.' or has she been overly "That's awesome, love hand me downs"? Maybe she's taking stu

Smootchy · April 2013

Inkogneetoh:

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LaurelBee · April 2013

AAAAATeam:
I agree, I need to give freely. But it is still annoying. I can't control what someone does with s

kj07 · April 2013

FormerlyKrista555:
They're allowed to do it, but I still would think they are kind of a crappy person for not passing on the g

LaurelBee · April 2013

GhostMonkey:
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weelass24 · April 2013

I wish I had the time on my hands to give a f?ck about what people did with clothes I gave away.

echowysp2 · April 2013

I was give bags of clothes when I found out my last was a girl. They all said for me to donate or sell, didn't matter to them. I sold some and donated the rest. I don't see anything wrong with my situation, but was told they didn't care