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New Here...serious baby fever

kristensAteamkristensAteam
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Hey all.  A little background first - I am 31 years old, Married almost 11 years Dental Hygienist by day, mom of two by night(s and weekends, lol).  DD is 10 and DS is 5.  DH and I were married when I was 13 weeks pregnant with DD (I was 20, DH was 22).  5 years later, we were surprised with DS.  We are financially unstable and our marriage is rocky at best.  We could never afford child care for an infant (we have family watch our DS but they can't do babies).  Basically, it would be irresponsible on many levels if we chose to have another baby.  We both want another one - me more so than him - but we know it's not a good idea.  So why can't my logical brain accept these extremely rational reasons and QUIT bugging me about another baby?!?  I have literally prayed to God that I would just stop wanting another one because it hurts so much to constantly be yearning for a child.  I think that part of the issue for me is that since both of my kids were happy surprises, we never had the opportunity to know what it's like to actually "plan" a family and I feel like that is an experience that I missed out on.  I want to know what that is like.  But more than anything I want another chance to feel life grow within me and hold another precious angel that I can call my own all over again.  It gets harder and harder as my kids grow up.  Does anyone else feel this way?  Thanks for letting me vent.  
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Re: New Here...serious baby fever

  • ks3pinkks3pink member
    If its ant consolation life never seems to go according to plan. I had DD my senior year of high school. Married DH my senior year of college. The plan was to wait a year and have a baby then in a couple more years get a house and maybe baby number three.
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  • kittybits21kittybits21 member

    I'm sorry that you're having trouble with this. As someone who's had a rocky marriage (counseling DEFINITELY helps a LOT with this), I know it can be tough, and even tougher when you involve kids. The only advice I have for you on that front would be 1

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  • kristensAteamkristensAteam
    Thanks ladies.  Re-reading this made me realize what a whiner I sound like.  I need to redirect my focus to my kids and just be grateful for them.  From now on I will strive to be the best mommy I can be for them, and quit worrying about wh
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