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DH Vent

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Ok I need to vent! For the last 2 months I've been back from maternity leave, but working from home and taking care of DS. The plan all along was to get a nanny, but we had to wait for some plans to settle to make sure we knew where we were living and to figure out our finances. So during the day, I somehow am supposed to take care of DS which isn't bad unless he's fussy from teething, plus get my work done, plus try to get some housework done. I'm also the one whoe gets up in the middle of the night. When DH comes home from work, he gets upset if I give DS to him and gives me looks when the dishes aren't done, etc. We've been fighting so much because I swear he thinks I'm a sahm, and while I'd love to be, I'm also he primary income source. He acts like my days are so easy and he is so stressed. Now I found a nanny and want her to start ASAP, but he accuses me of just wanting to spend money and that I don't like motherhood because I can't handle it, which is totally not the case. I think he's being selfish just expecting me to be able to do everything! He said he'll come home for lunch so I can make calls, but then today he does and makes a HUGE deal out of it. Ugh, I guess I'm just so frustrated because we have a good baby and are finally comfortable financially but just seem like we are at war all of the time. I thought that this would just be a much happier time in our marriage! I'm hoping the nanny coming in will help but I'm really not sure! Anyway, thanks for listening!

BFP #1: 05/2012 DS born 12/30/12

BFP #2: 02/2014 Natural M/C 03/2014 @ 7 weeks

BFP #3: 06/2014 EDD: 02/17/2015 M/C @ 7w2d, D&E 7/15/14


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  • 82Sonia82Sonia member
    I think he's being unreasonable. My DH and I have not been getting along as well as we used to. I swear they don't get how much work a baby is. I love my daughter more than anything and I expect him to want to spend just as much time with her as I do but

     

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    He's being really ridiculous.  I don't think the nanny coming in will fix everything.  You need to have a discussion about this and keep the lines of communication open.  It's the only way to fix this problem.  He obviously had unreali
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    Okay, sounds like your DH needs to grow up a bit and learn what parenthood is all about.  When DS#1 was born, DH was minorly immature about it.  I'd get looks or backdoor compliments about what didn't get down around the house, or

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    Okay, sounds like your DH needs to grow up a bit and learn what parenthood is all about.  When DS#1 was born, DH

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