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October 2011 Moms
Elsa1984
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NBR: Wedding Poll
Elsa1984
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SO and I have been talking about getting married next summer. We haven't brought it up with anyone else, because we want to figure out how we want our wedding to be first. We have been together for 7 years, and I have never been one to daydream about a big wedding or anything like that. SO's family is massive, very close, and do everything together....you cannot leave anyone out. Luckily I love his family so I wouldn't want to leave anyone out. We are not PDA people, and don't really like "all eyes on us". My mom is a huge micromanager and when it comes to details and decisions made, so she could make it extremely stressful if we do a local wedding. So we have been thinking these three options:
1. Have the huge wedding with everyone and go all out. Stress over my mom's micromanaging over every little thing. Down a few shots before walking down the isle to calm my nerves of everyone watching.
2. Destination wedding. Only SO, Gator and I. Combining our wedding/honeymoon/family vacation. Come back and have reception where everyone is invited. Slightly running into the problem that there wouldn't be anyone to take Gator for awhile so we can have some alone time, unless we stay at an expensive resort that has child care. We have also noticed that most of the weddings are packages with a lot of things we don't need/want or for weddings with guests, which we won't have. Most places, you cannot alter the packages. With the cost of flight/resort/wedding, it will eat into the reception funds...making it equal to or more expensive than the bigger wedding at home. A stranger will marry us, possibly in another language, and our witnesses will be strangers.
3. Getting married at SO's favorite lake, which is three hours away. Going for a weekend and inviting everyone. Making one of the evenings a VERY casual "wedding night". They have a amphitheater type area that you can reserve for free. Our friend can marry us. Let my mom decorate with candles in mason jars to keep her out of my hair. Wear a white summer type dress. Then having the reception when we get back for those that couldn't make it. Most likely, about half to 3/4 would come camping. There is a day use area for swimming and such, we would have multiple boats, and there is a marina with house boats, pontoon rentals, etc. Some may skip and only come to the reception. But this would at least give them the option to attend the wedding and not feel like we are running off and don't want to include them. There is a local hotel for those that don't want to camp/RV.
Our reception space is free, it's my aunt's backyard. It would also be very casual, with tons of food, drinks, fire in the fire pit....more of a summertime BBQ/Party type feel. We are not formal type people so we won't regret not going super nice/formal.
Which would you choose?!
1. Have the huge wedding with everyone and go all out. Stress over my mom's micromanaging over every little thing. Down a few shots before walking down the isle to calm my nerves of everyone watching.
2. Destination wedding. Only SO, Gator and I. Combining our wedding/honeymoon/family vacation. Come back and have reception where everyone is invited. Slightly running into the problem that there wouldn't be anyone to take Gator for awhile so we can have some alone time, unless we stay at an expensive resort that has child care. We have also noticed that most of the weddings are packages with a lot of things we don't need/want or for weddings with guests, which we won't have. Most places, you cannot alter the packages. With the cost of flight/resort/wedding, it will eat into the reception funds...making it equal to or more expensive than the bigger wedding at home. A stranger will marry us, possibly in another language, and our witnesses will be strangers.
3. Getting married at SO's favorite lake, which is three hours away. Going for a weekend and inviting everyone. Making one of the evenings a VERY casual "wedding night". They have a amphitheater type area that you can reserve for free. Our friend can marry us. Let my mom decorate with candles in mason jars to keep her out of my hair. Wear a white summer type dress. Then having the reception when we get back for those that couldn't make it. Most likely, about half to 3/4 would come camping. There is a day use area for swimming and such, we would have multiple boats, and there is a marina with house boats, pontoon rentals, etc. Some may skip and only come to the reception. But this would at least give them the option to attend the wedding and not feel like we are running off and don't want to include them. There is a local hotel for those that don't want to camp/RV.
Our reception space is free, it's my aunt's backyard. It would also be very casual, with tons of food, drinks, fire in the fire pit....more of a summertime BBQ/Party type feel. We are not formal type people so we won't regret not going super nice/formal.
Which would you choose?!
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Re: NBR: Wedding Poll
ditto...it's what we should have done.
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Haha! I was looking at Turks and Caicos or
Congratulations Elsa! I'd totally do #3. It's your day, and you only get one of them. Might I also recommend an awesome book? She's a local author, and I loved reading it while I was planning our wedding. It's called The Offbeat
Number 3!
We eloped (went down to the courthouse, just the two of us and the JP). My family is large, loud and crazy opinionated but will not actually help with anything (just yell that they would do XYZ) and DH's family is a differe
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3 sounds like the best fit for you guys!
We had a DW- we only had 8 guests but no children. It was perfect for us, but I know it isn't for everyone.
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