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Offer to combine showers... WWYD?

shelbywilliamsshelbywilliams member
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FTM and not sure what to do here!

A group of girlfriends I attend church with have offered to throw me a shower, and traditionally our church baby/wedding showers bring about 30-40 guests from that circle.  Super kind of them!

 My BFF is from my work/social circle of friends, not a large quantity of friends there (great quality!) but would probably be about 10 guests.

They have both asked to throw me showers, which is extremely kind.  The church friends know my BFF a bit from attending past events together, but they are not beyond acquaintances.  

 WWYD:  The church girls approached me so kindly and said they thought my BFF would throw a separate shower for my other friends, and they told me to ask BFF if she would like to combine efforts for one big one.  I feel like for the church girls that may not be much to take on 10 more guests, but for the BFF who is planning a small intimate shower she would be taking on a LOT more.  I haven't shared this offer with the BFF yet because I don't want to make her feel pressured to do something other than what she has in mind, but I also feel like I shouldn't be passing on the offer of combining since I'm the recipient of this gift!

Am I making a bigger deal of this?  Have any of you "combined" your social circles for a large single shower?

 Thanks gals!!

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Re: Offer to combine showers... WWYD?

  • shelbywilliamsshelbywilliams member
    imageMandJS:

    I'm not clear that your BFF has even offered to throw you a shower yet? Has she? Are you all just assuming she will?&n

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  • 1026pumpkin1026pumpkin member
    I would maybe tell the church friends that you're not sure what BFF has planned and don't want to step on her toes, and then change the topic and gush about how much you appreciate the shower they're planning for you.
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  • TX-BrideTX-Bride member
    image1026pumpkin:
    I would maybe tell the church friends that you're not sure what BFF has planned and don't want to step on her toes,
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  • HappyMrsKHappyMrsK member

    image1026pumpkin:
    I would maybe tell the church friends that you're not sure what BFF has planned and don't want to step on her toe
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  • abell77abell77 member
    I would keep them separate.  Since the people who have offered to help plan are not beyond acquaintances, I think that is a recipe for people with good intentions to still end up with their feelings hurt.  There is no guarantee they will work we
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  • MrsBlindLoveMrsBlindLove member

    image1026pumpkin:
    I would maybe tell the church friends that you're not sure what BFF has planned and don't want to step on her toe
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  • shelbywilliamsshelbywilliams member
    Thanks so much, guys.  I really appreciate the advice.
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