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frustrated with my pushy IL's!

CarolineEmmaCarolineEmma member
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I'm 34 weeks pregnant and my shower was about 5 weeks ago. One of my husband's relatives was supposed to come to the shower but ended up being sick that day. I happened to see on my amazon registry about a week after the shower that she had bought us a very generous gift of our bouncer (we picked a pretty extravagant bouncer and had only really put it on the registry for the discount so we were very surprised it had been purchased). We didn't know what she was going to do since she hadn't made it to the shower, so we decided to just wait and see if it showed up and if it didn't by like 38 weeks or so we'd buy it ourselves. I really didn't want to ask her about it because that just feels so rude to me, especially because we don't often see this relative.

 

FF to this week, my FIL asks me if we have all the big stuff and I mention that the only big thing we don't have is the bouncer and I tell him why we're waiting on buying it til the last minute. He offers to call the relative and ask her about it and I tell him absolutely not and that MH and I think it would be rude especially now to bring it up. 

 

The next day MH's grandmother calls him to tell him FIL had told her the situation, she had called the cousin in question, who would be shipping the bouncer! ugh. I told him very plainly not to get into it!

I'm happy to know it will be coming I guess but I would rather no one had said anything because now I feel like the cousin is going to feel like I was complaining or something when I wasn't at all. I'm so frustrated at how nosy MH's family can be about everything.

After all this mess, H's cousin will be receiving a very emphatic thank you when the bouncer arrives, and pics of LO in it once he's born! 

 how would you ladies have handled this situation though in the first place? I just find calling someone up to basically be like "we missed you at the shower, now where's my gift?" to be really inappropriate which is why MH and I never brought it up to his cousin.

 

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Re: frustrated with my pushy IL's!

  • EastCoastBrideEastCoastBride member

    Eh, they know the cousin better than you.  They may know she didn't care to be asked about it.  i wouldn't worry about it all that much.

    However, next time something like this happens - just don't tell them!  when asked what big st

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    Eh, they know the cousin better than you.  They may know she didn't care to be asked about it.  i wo

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  • HappyMrsKHappyMrsK member
    imageEastCoastBride:

    Eh, they know the cousin better than you.  They may know she didn't care to be asked about it.  i wo

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  • JocelynB0911JocelynB0911 member
    I really dont feel that your ILs were bring pushy. You mentioned it to your FIL. Has someone ever mentioned something to you and you told your DH about it? That could have very well been the case. Either way you got the bouncer that you wanted. As PPs hav
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