Nervous about having two under 2 :/

twounder2momma · April 2013

Anyone want to tell me their experiences with having two under 2? Mine will be 19 months apart. Jax will be 1 in May and my EDD is 12/20/13. My mom tells me "it's not as hard as you think" because my brother and I were 18 months.. But then turns around and tells me that at times she would run on 2-3 hours of sleep because of our schedules.. I also have a 3 yr old step-son and just with him adjusting to my 10 month old since he was born has been crazy. Anyways.. Just wanting to hear your experiences. Since I'm new to this.

giggles0918 · April 2013

I am in your same position due mid-December. Mine will be 18 months apart. I'm quite nervous to say the least as well!

Arielle27 · April 2013

Not sure what you are most nervous about or what you want to what details about exactly... But I will echo the idea that it is not as difficult as you are imagining it will be!! I think we've had an easier time than friends with a larger age gap between their little ones. Ours are 16 months apart, btw.

Unfortunately, the sleep thing may get to you... It has been my experience... Very little sleep for much longer than I thought would be humanly possible! But number two is a really really terrible sleeper... and we still lived through it!! In fact, we are now expecting three under three, so it really hasn't been a nightmare at all for us!

Wannalitter · April 2013

My #2 is coming in June and I'm just starting to realize the implications of having 2 so close as well. My biggest concern is preparing my oldest for the new baby. Everything I'm reading says to talk to him about it and to read him books about a new sibling. However, he is only 14 months now and we can still get away with reading trashy novels and parenting magazines as bedtime stories. I mean he still calls the dog "shoe" and I have to remind him food goes in his mouth, not his eye sometimes so, I question his ability to grasp the concept of a whole new human being coming into existence. Any advice on this?

Arielle27 · April 2013

Re: pp's question, our son didn't realize our daughter was a human brig for a whole after she was born. He was 16 months old when she was born. We talked to him about it a lot beforehand, but he wasn't able to understand it at all. However, it wasn't a problem at all, he was simply mystefied.

KA92013 · April 2013

Hi!

I'm sure you'll be a great mom to 2 under 2. I actually don't have any experience with this, but my brother and I are 14 months apart. My BFF and her brother are 19 months apart. Growing up with a sibling close in age was really great. We didn't really get along that well when we were younger, but from college age and up, we've gotten to be really close. Same with my BFF.

I never really asked my parents how they handled it all, but both were working at the time, and got a lot of help from my grandma who helped take care of us. My BFF had her grandpa.

I can imagine that it'll be harder when they're both young babies, but I hope you have a great support system to help you and calm your worries. How lucky it would be for your kids to have a built-in playmate in their early years, some healthy sibling competition, and to reach milestones together in their adult years!

doodlebuggmommy · April 2013

My kids are 15 months apart. Needless to say my life was turned upside down. Some days really suck, and then others aren't so bad, just really busy. I usually end up having to remind myself that the craziness will eventually settle down, usually after both kids poop at the exact same time but hey guess what I will never have to go back to using diapers or have to relive the terrible twos. I would rather get it all over and done with than feel like I'm reverting back into really grouchy stages. It can only get better

virginiagirl11 · April 2013

I'm nervous, too, although mine will be 25 months apart so I've got a little more space. But, like PP, I'm just telling myself that we're getting it all over with now so we won't ever have to deal with the hard parts of babyhood again.

Rocklandholly · May 2013

Our kids are 21months apart, with the baby just turning 3 months. The first 6-8 was were really rough and DH was home for the first 4. The baby was a terrible sleeper, wanted to be held all the time. I was nursing and got mastitis, which I wouldn't wish on anyone. It was that and the lack of sleep(she didn't sleep more than 2-3 hrs at night) that got to me. Once she started sleeping, things just cclicked. I will say don't be too hard on your self and don't expect to accomplish a lot most days. You really just have to deal w a messy house, too. You also figure out what does/doesn't work for you. It really is so much fun and so cute to see the older one grow attached to the baby!

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