Rant-stupid GP made me cry

katib77 · April 2013

I've seen the same general practitioner for the last four years (and had seen her when I previously lived in my hometown from age 16-23). Almost each time I've gone there, I've mentioned either our TTC or IF.

Today while the nurse is going over meds and vitals before the GP comes in I mention our miscarriage (in case they want it in my chart) and when she takes my temp and it's 99.6 I say "Well, now I'm mad at myself for forgetting to take a HPT this morning". She mentions we can add it to my annual blood work (I'm there for annual thyroid check since they removed half and A1C level for my diabetes.) I said don't bother since a natural cycle BFP is nearly impossible and I'm not "late" yet (AF should arrive today or tomorrow).

GP comes in having talked to the nurse about all that and after saying she's sorry, asks if the m/c was emotionally hard. What?! What do you think? I say, well after trying three years and nine months to finally get PG only to miscarry? Yes! (cue start crying) You try spending almost ten thousand dollars with nothing to show for it and see how you feel!" Her response? "I'm sorry, I didn't know you'd been trying that long." Come on! I've talked with you about the IUIs and IVF possibility before. I know the drugs and such are in my chart. Really?

And who asks someone if a m/c was emotionally hard? Shouldn't that just be assumed? And that darn temp made me come home and take a HPT in the middle of the day, when my urine is diluted. Of course it's a BFN, since most likely I'm only 10dpo (or 13 if I O'd real early). Aaarrgghhh, I hate crying in front of people! I should have told my GP that next week is NIAW and maybe she should read up on how to be more sensitive.

Rant over.

ena724 · April 2013

So sorry you had to go through that.

I don't think anyone understands how hard a loss is unless you've gone through it and when you add IF on top of it, it totally sucks! HUGE ((hugs)) to you today.

ngalvan99 · April 2013

Im sorry for you loss and for the GP's behavior. So insensitive.

Hope the rest of your day is better.

Cara1024 · April 2013

Ugh. Why on earth would she ask that? I'm so sorry! And yes she should have known about how long you've been trying. I think she was just looking for an excuse for what she said. (((hugs)))

daisy19782011 · April 2013

I am so sorry! I hate crying in front of people too and my loss has made me an emotional wreck pretty much. Friends at work were even like...your crying and you are usally our rock. Loss changes you...

Shellydawn422 · April 2013

Ugg...I am so sorry you had to go through that. I keep expecting medical professionals to, you know...be professional. Even if she hadn't known how long you were trying, that was a horrendous question to ask. And what ever happened&

mmhopeful · April 2013

I'm so sorry that happened today. You have every right to cry and know that it is a healthy release. It's just sad that sometimes you get to see how drs. don't read their charts or prepare for their patient. Imagine if a teacher didn't r

monimu13 · April 2013

So sorry that she was so clueless and without some common sense. Who on Earth would say that their loss wasn't hard in them...geez.

Try to have a good evening and maybe a glass of wine. Lots of hugs today!

twistsandturnsto2 · April 2013

:::hugs::: you would think that your doctor would be better versed in dealing with emotional issues. I'm sorry you had to deal with that.

niffie · April 2013

I will never understand some things that come out of some peoples' mouths. For real. It's pretty ridiculous. Sorry you had to endure that. People are nuts.

BellaLux · April 2013

I'm so sorry:-(. It hurts the most when those that should understand make the dumbest/most insensitive comments!

RunCC37 · April 2013

that was really insensitive... so sorry that you had to go through that. <hugs>

CaliCarly1976 · April 2013

Awww! I hate how the health system has made our doctors such robots. I hope she checked herself after that. I am also sorry about your BFN - there is nothing more depressing than the hopes you have when you take the test to the negative result, so emot

BankerBSN · April 2013

I am so sorry. I just want to hug you right now...

Durham1008 · April 2013

Ugh that sucks! Some people just have no common sense. *hugs*

shelbeans82 · April 2013

I'm so sorry you have to deal with such an insensitive comment. Hugs!

herecomesthesun · April 2013

Ug. That's horrible. I am so sorry.

12guadalupe · April 2013

im sorry Katib, sometimes i feel people just take it for granted that they were blessed with kids (which i am sure she does have) and therefore do not know the value or fail to empathize with those who have trouble having. Hugsss

Cindal · April 2013

Oh that is horrible. What in the world possessed her to say something so...stupid. I hope the rest of your day was world's away from that moment in quality.

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