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doodlebuggmommy
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BM is really starting to bug me... VENT
doodlebuggmommy
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My husband and I have two children together and then he has a eight year old son with BM. Recently we have been going though a lot of crap lately. First of all our previous landlords gave us just under a month to move out because they wanted to four their house up on the market. We were unable to find a pet friendly place to rent so we had to find new homes for our dogs, which sucked because they are very much a part of our family. So with moving expenses and damage deposits and storage fees ( we moved from a four bedroom house into a two bedroom basement apartment) child support was late getting to BM. And recently we have been having a lot of problems with our bank (cheques have had problems, and when my husband sent cash through the mail (I know stupid idea) it ended up not making it so we had to pay twice.) Also my husband had just gotten a raise so child support has actually double in the past month so we told BM that we needed her to get an auto debit form so that there wouldn't be any issues getting the money from our account into hers and that we would pay the $425 every two weeks so that we can budget a bit better. So BM ends up throwing a fit because she doesn't want to do it that way because she did want us to see her bank information ( which wouldn't even be an issue) so she took forever to give us the information. So like I said the child support was late. So she send DH a text while we are trying to move and sort out our old place saying that because we haven't paid her, SS would not be at DH's parents house like he usually is on Monday until we paid up ('SS stays at grandparents house every Monday and that is the only time we get to talk to him on Skype) This is the First time that child support has EVER been late and she knew that we were moving and having a hard time at the moment. So DH tries to call her and she refuses to answer the phone and gets her husband to talk to DH instead. They ended up getting into a heated argument over the phone and ended up sorting things out.
It just really ticks me off that she would flip out so bad about this and try to keep us from seeing and talking to him more than she already has. We only get to see him every couple of months and when ever we go there she always makes an excuse to talk him for a few hours in the middle of our visit or pick him up early. I really feel that the child support we pay basically keeps her family (she has a son with her husband) from going bankrupt. She work part time at a bowling alley and the last we heard her husband is jobless. The both always have the newest gadgets and game systems and SS has his own television and Xbox 360 in his room and he just turned eight. And she keeps telling SS that they are going to have twin daughters now because they have two boys, which I really hope doesn't happen because 6 people will not fit in their two bedroom house. I understand that money is tight in their household but we have been having enough problems in our own household never mind her starting this drama and telling SS that we are never going to see Lily And Takaani (our dogs) again. I feel that it is unnecessaryfor her to talk about our business and I don't want to know what else they have said about us.
Sorry for the long message and the terrible punctuation and the rambling of this post please don't flame, I just don't have anyone that is even in a remotely similar situation.
Doodlebug Mommy
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Re: BM is really starting to bug me... VENT
BFP #1 11/07/2012 EDD 07/09/2013 M/C 11/22/2012
BFP #2 02/05/2013 EDD 09/19/2013 Arrived via c-section 09/27/2013
And someone correct me if I am wrong, please. But I think that, at least in some states, CS paid that was.not COed can be considered gifts instead if CS
Not having a CO is really hurting both sides. Maybe it seems (or seemed?) unnecessary, but it provides a lot of real legal protection that you can't otherwise get. Without a CO, your husband has no way to enforce his rights to see his child--what kind