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baby shower for your 4th pregnancy!?!? ugh

mrsamr2013mrsamr2013
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My mother... is very sweet. And SO excited to be expecting her 4th grandchild!!! and I am super excited to be pregnant again. I am on my second marriage and this is my husbands first child. His mother is SO excited.... this will be her first grandson:) So our mothers are putting their heads together to plan a baby shower.... and I am having very mixed emotions. My 2nd I was planning a get together because we found out we were having a girl (my first born is a boy) so I needed girl stuff... so I was planning an informal get together and my mother told me it was tacky to have a baby shower for any other pregnancy beside your first. So now that I am on my FOURTH it is suddenly ok? this confuses me.... so I told mom lets do an informal barbeque at the beach. kids can play in the lake, adults can grill out.... we dont have to decorate because we are outside... and she is now mad and saying she will only invite who she wants to and she is having it at her house because I dont want the traditional baby shower with games and stuff. The other part of this.. is she lives 45 minutes away.... there is NO ONE that is invited that lives anywhere near her and her house is small. so if it rains we have to be in the garage (which is not big) HELP!!! how do I keep my mom happy and be respectful and appreciative that she wants to do "something" for me.... but not lose my mind?
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Re: baby shower for your 4th pregnancy!?!? ugh

  • [Deleted User][Deleted User] member
    Just tell her no, no, no.  If your husbands mother wants to host a shower for you with her family and friends (people that haven't been invited to a past shower) then I can maybe see allowing that.  You def. don't want to plan your own party for
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    Just tell her no, no, no.  If your husbands mother wants to host a shower for you with her family and friends (
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  • BrianaSimonsBrianaSimons
    If your husbands mother wants to host a shower that's fine....seeing it's his first and all. Just tell mom no thank you and tell her you don't really need anything.
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  • EastCoastBrideEastCoastBride member

    WHy not think about the people she'd be inviting?  Are THEY going to want to be invited to a party for your FOURTH child?  Maybe, or maybe they'll be annoyed.  Why is this all about your mom and what she wants?  Why not what you wan

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  • mamigeemamigee
    I would just try to be grateful and go with the flow. Let her plan whatever she wants for you and have fun with it. :)
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  • rhubarb123rhubarb123 member

    Well, just to give you an idea of what will most likely happen by telling you what happened at my friend's shower.  It was her 4th child but her DH's first.  His mother and sisters hosted the shower.  Most guests were from his side but n

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  • mrsamr2013mrsamr2013
    thank you all. I have to find a way to tell me mom...... :) that is easier said than done. but I dont want a traditional baby shower!!! Im glad I am not the only one that thinks this is inappropiate.
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  • colleen hurlbertcolleen hurlbert
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    I think it would be totally appropriate for your MIL to host a shower since it's her son's first child.nbsp;I think
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