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Newbie with a question

First off, I just found your board today.... I don't know how I've missed it! I hope y'all don't mind me joining :)

We've got a beautiful 6 month old, Clara and live in South Carolina (any other SC mommies here??).

Now that C is 6 months, I've been getting a TON of questions from family members about a #2. We (I) don't want any more. I had a rough high risk pregnancy, ppd, and lots of marriage problems since she's been born. And on top of that, I'm happy with just her! What responses do you give people when they ask you. I don't really think I should have to explain myself...and I don't really want to share my reasons anyway. Thanks! 

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Re: Newbie with a question

  • Persistent offenders get a "When H finds another wife to carry a 2nd child and you are going to pay for all the expenses of raising the child."

    I'm really over it.  New askers of this generally get "Oh, my hands are totally full with just

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    Persistent offenders get a "When H finds another wife to carry a 2nd child and you are going to pay for all the expe

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  • I just usually say "Ohh, I'm very happy with just him."  However, about 70% of the time that doesn't stop the questions.  Sometimes I say "I had a hard time getting pregnant and don't have a desire to go down that road again" other times "I real

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  • Thankfully I don't get the "why not"s too often. People ask when I am having another one and I reply "when I can afford a night nurse. I like to sleep at night."
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  • I'm a new mommy, so I haven't been asked yet, but when the time comes (and I KNOW it will!) I plan to respond with something along the lines of "we feel incredibly blessed to have DD in our lives, and feel that our family is complete."<span style="font

  • We are OAD due to personal preference, financial, and health reasons. Too many signs tell us to be OAD. Most people don't pry. I did have to snap at a coworker after two plus years of her basically telling me we were selfish people for not having another
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  • I'm OAD for personal and circumstantial reasons. I feel complete having DD, like my free time and sleep and don't feel that I'm missing out by not adding to my family. The typical response I hear when people ask me if I'll have a second is, "Never say nev
  • Thanks for the input everyone! 

    I'm selfishly glad that y'all hear the same questions as I do.... it's nice to hear I'm not alone! It's also awesome to hear other moms who feel the same way I do. I feel like so many people don't understand o

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    I haven't been asked very often, but my response is usually "I want to give him everything I've got".  Bottom line, it's no one's business, so no explanation is really necessary! 

  • I would just say, "we're happy with just one" or something to that effect. It's really no one else's business.
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  • Thank you so much everyone for the replies! :)
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