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malcivar
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Please permit me a vent
malcivar
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I'm just really peeved right now.
My kids have no kind of luck when it comes to being any sort of priority for my in-laws, their grandparents.
When Chris was born, my MIL was driving her other son and his wife (who have a car btw) to Maryland to pick up a dog. Chris was born when they were driving back up, past NY but she couldn't stop by to see us.
When Chris turned 1 she has 'already promised' her other 2 grandkids (SIL's kids) that she would take them trick or treating (Chris's bday is right around Halloween). Um, sorry, don't they have parents?
When Chris turned 2, she couldn't get off work.
When Chris turned 3, there was a hurricane (they get a pass on that one).
Now DS2 is turning 1 (today actually) and she got sick - ok, I get that. I'm not unreasonable. So DH says, how about coming down in a couple of weeks and I say to him, nope it's her other grandkid's (SIL's son) birthday and he says "no, it's DS2's 1st birthday, it'll be fine". He just informed me, crestfallen, that they can't come because it's X's birthday and she doesn't want to let them down.
BUT IT'S OK TO LET MY KIDS DOWN.
But I have to pack my kids into a car for 6 hrs to visit them every time we have any sort of vacation time from work. Now you all know how hard it can be to take our kids out of their routines for a weekend trip, 12 hrs of which is in a car.
And to add insult to injury, today she posted pics of her at her granddaughter's 1st birthday party (SIL's daughter) - that party was this past Saturday.
I know - this has nothing to do with our board but I'm just so upset right now. I just feel like my kids just can't catch a break.
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Re: Please permit me a vent
I would just stop making an effort with the in-laws
Celebrate just the 4 of you and have a blast doing so! Take pictures! Eat a store bought cake or one you made!
If your in-laws don't come, it is their lost for not seeing how wonderful
Thanks guys for letting me vent. We bought cupcakes and he dutifully made a big old mess. He's now sleeping off the sugar rush but not after some epic fussiness.
I feel bad for DH. He's an extreme "willing to give you the benef
Grandparents or not, if they can't bother to see me/my kids then I have a hard time bending over backwards to see them. Maybe she needs a CTJ meeting about how she has X number of grandkids and not just Y number.
I don't think this h
I agree with everyone. F them.
One set of grandparents is like that. Honestly between the lack of effort and some (unintentionally) hurtful things SMIL has said they have become last on our priority list. They've never been to a b-day party. They live 1.5 hours awa
DS 09/2008
You are so preaching to the choir. I'm with everyone else who says to stop making the effort.
I asked for 18 months for something other than a bassinet for DD to sleep in when we visited them. "Why? She still fits in it." Um... no sh