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having a 3rd boy and a little sad

doodlemonkey22doodlemonkey22 member
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We have two boys and I adore them. When we found we were having another baby, everyone kept telling us this MUST be our girl. This 3rd pregnancy was a complete shocker and be to honest an ooops. So everyone reasoned that God sent us another baby so I can finally have a girl. Whatever, I knew the chances of it being a boy was just as likely. So when the U/S tech told us it was another boy I was okay with it. We even had a good laugh about it. Then I talked to my MIL. Now I'm feeling a bit sad. I know she wasn't trying to upset me and only trying to give me advice, but it ended with me almost in tears. Her advice to me was that boys are mom's best friends and adore mom UNTIL they get married. As an example she used her own son (my DH) who asked her advice on everything and called her everyday...until it got serious with between us and he stopped calling. She said that was how she knew I was THE one. Now I talk to her more than he does. She was trying to prepare me for this and the fact that husbands tend to spend more time and just be closer to the wife's family. So I'm mentally going down the list of friends and family that are married and damn it she's right. I remember how much I suddenly needed my mom after having my first baby. Our relationship got stronger and we're together all the time. Missing out on girly stuff like getting our nails done together and and wearing matching outfits is one thing, but THIS...this is making me sad.

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  • abell77abell77 member
    I can understand how you feel.  I have two precious boys and I have two more weeks to go until we know whether #3 is a boy or girl.  Like you, everyone is telling us, "oh this one must be a girl!"  and I think, really?  Isn't it still
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  • amk1214amk1214

    Its completely normal to feel sad.  I cried when I found out my second was going to be a boy.  I always thought I would have a daughter, and my husband only wanted 2 kids.  As I was leaving the medical building where I had my 20 week ana

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  • emikatemikat member
    Both I and my husband are closer to his parents than mine.  Every situation is different.  I wouldn't count your sons out of your life just yet!  I had a slight preference for a girl, so I understand being a little sad.  But in the end
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  • StrunellaStrunella member

    I have to be honest...I've always been partial to boys and really hope that our second child is another boy.   Girls = drama to me and I'll be perfectly content not to have a teenage daughter!  

    My husband still has a very

     
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  • doodlemonkey22doodlemonkey22 member
    Thank you, ladies, for your words of encouragement. I am feeling better about it. I'm starting to feel hopeful that my boys won't abandon me once they find wives. It seems like such a weird thing to worry about since that future is so far away and who kno
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  • alitriaalitria member

    I have one boy and if the pattern in my family continues, if I have two it will be another boy.  There is a noticable lack of girls born on both sides of the family. 

    I understand what a pp said about seeing a woman with her daughter a

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  • lovethebosoxlovethebosox member
    I have two boys and am just over a week away from finding out about this little one. DH and I would love to have a girl. This pregnancy was a surprise like yours and I have also had the thought that maybe this is the girl we were meant to have.
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  • DonnaMartinGraduatesDonnaMartinGraduates member

    When I was pregnant with baby #2, I was so sure that t was a girl. This was going to be our last baby, I'd always wanted a daughter, and my pregnancy was completely different than the first one so of course everyone said "it must be a girl!". When we f

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