Need some advice...ticker warning

LaBellaVida · April 2013

I had a co-worker acquaintance that I used to work with, and she suffered the loss of her baby a year ago- just weeks before she was due. I remember the day the baby was delivered via C-section. I would like to reach out to her to let her know I am thinking about her ect. I can go into her work, or send her something over facebook, as I don't have her phone number, or her home address.

I am curious if this would be okay to do? I know those emotions are raw still, and there is nothing anyone can do or say to make things better, I just want her to know that I am thinking of her, and I am still deeply sorry for the loss she has suffered.

I am not sure if I should have some flowers delivered to work, as she works in customer service, because I would hate for her day to be saddened even more, and not being able to function at work. She might just take that day off to stay at home, I don't know.

Or I was thinking of just sending her a quick "I'm thinking of you today" message over facebook.

I want to be very respectful, and want to keep it as sweet as possible, and really wish I could send my condolences in a more private way, but since I can't....still would like to tell her I am thinking of her.

Can any of you ladies give me some suggestions on how to approach this, if at all? I am so sorry, for everyone's losses- and really struggled coming to this board to even ask how to approach this subject.

TIA

LaBellaVida · April 2013

Sure thing- added a ticker warning.

thanks!!

HullGut · April 2013

I would say send her an email or a face book message and tell her what you told us. That you are thinking of her and remember last year. You know this is a hard time for her. Even if she does not write back she will appreciate i

shandorfml2 · April 2013

I think it's wonderful you are thinking of her...and want to acknowledge her loss. Having our children remembered and recognized is very important to us. I agree sending a message would be appropriate.

Heatherhah · April 2013

I agree with the other ladies. An email or a facebook message would be great. Flowers were terribly hard for me since they remind me of all of the flowers we received when our Sydney died. So flowers may not be a great idea. I don't like flowers still to

LaBellaVida · April 2013

Thank you all so very much!! I will go the FB route.

Should I mention the babies name also-

Things I should stay clear of saying?

Thanks!!

Heatherhah · April 2013

Saying her name is a great idea. I loved when people remembered when my Sydney died and mentioned her to me. She was my world my everything and when people don't say her name it hurts me, she existed even if it was only for the 9 months I carried her. Tho

LaBellaVida · April 2013

Heatherhah:
Saying her name is a great idea. I loved when people remembered when my Sydney died and mentioned her to me. She w

angelsnight · April 2013

I think a facebook message would be nice. I agree that something sent to work might not work as well if she isn't working that day, or maybe she may not want to have to explain to any co-workers what the flowers are for.

Everyone is differe

bunnybun4 · April 2013

ticker warning....

You've gotten great advice from previous posters. You are a very sweet and thoughtful friend. My baby's due date is Wednesday and I would be so touched that a friend remembered her. And yes...definitely

Poppy715 · April 2013

This is incredibly sweet of you. I am touched by your thoughfulness. I agree with PP's. Saying her name will mean so much to your friend. We love our children just as much as other mom's do. We hardly ever get to hear their names aloud. A message, email o