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PriscellaDsPriscellaDs
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So I've been going through a lot of posts and most of them seem to have the opinion of second showers being tacky. But I notice that that opinion is centred around the idea that all the MTB wants is more gifts and is just being greedy..

Is this the general idea of a second shower being tacky for that reason or am I missing something?
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  • Kelli2507Kelli2507 member
    I don't think it's tacky is its a. and absolute surprise and there is no registry involved or B. the last time a couple had a baby was 10 yrs ago. Or around then. Also I've been to a "sprinkle" for someone who had a 8 yr old daughter but this baby was wi
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  • Disneygeek77Disneygeek77 member

    Just to clarify.  When you say second shower, do you mean for a second child or do you mean a second shower for a first child ?

    IMO, a very small shower  for a second child with just your very close friends and family ( and no registry)

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  • everchangingcycleseverchangingcycles
    I think of a second shower being compared to having two birthday parties in one year because the person wasn't satisfied enough with the gifts from the first one. I think a get together after baby's born isn't a bad idea, or tacky. But, a second shower wi
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  • PriscellaDsPriscellaDs
    I didn't get a chance to have a shower for my first due to my grandmother passing away and baby coming early.

    My mom and sister want to throw me a shower this time and its going to be just family and a few close friends although I do have a l
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  • BrianaSimonsBrianaSimons

    Depends on your circle. Some people don't care if you have a shower for every kid. Some people do care....those people don't have to come. Should you have a shower for 4 kids in 5 years......hello no. But if someone offers, go for it.

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  • mben1119mben1119 member
    A shower is to "shower" a new mom with the things she'll need with her new child. Anything beyond that is excessive, tacky, and gift grabby.
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  • PriscellaDsPriscellaDs
    It's common amongst my family, but I'm worried about my in laws as I've had trouble with them during my first pregnancy on certain situations.

    They tend to think me and family get a bit excessive and spoil my son and he doesn't deserve it bu
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  • Disneygeek77Disneygeek77 member
    Then don't invite your ILs.
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  • PriscellaDsPriscellaDs
    Most people keep associating having a shower with getting gifts but that's not necessarily always the case.

    I think if your going to have a shower for a second pregnancy it should be more about the MTB than anything.

    I know I'm
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  • ordinary1ordinary1 member
    A shower for second plus children is tacky. The whole point of a shower is to welcome a new mom into motherhood.

    Edited to fix spelling and to add: there are some exceptions to this IMO but very few.
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  • elissa aelissa a

    Honestly, I think this is a very cultural matter. In some parts of the country and even within certain cities, workplaces or churches, it can be very common to have a baby shower for a mom who just had a child a year or so ago. 
    Where I lived

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  • rhubarb123rhubarb123 member
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    I didn't get a chance to have a shower for my first due to my grandmother passing away and baby coming early. My
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    It doesn't matter the reason. A shower is to shower a new mom into motherhood. If you have a kid already, you are already
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    It doesn't matter the reason. A shower is to shower a new mom into motherhood. If you have a kid already, you are alre
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  • kennazebrowskykennazebrowsky member
    Opinions are like azzholes.... Everyone has one. To each their own.

    I don't think it's tacky and have been to several showers for second time, third time and even 4th time mothers. I would have bought these people a gift regardless of anothe
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  • BeckyTheEngineerBeckyTheEngineer
    My first pregnancy I had 2 showers, 500 miles apart. Second baby I declined a shower. Third baby I declined a shower, but was just given a surprise shower at work.

    I don't see anything I did as tacky, even if I had accepted the other shower
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  • pamiva1pamiva1 member
    I think it all depends on your circle of friends. I welcome the opportunity to celebrate every new baby and don't think of it as gift centered at all. While a meet the baby party is certainly another option, some people don't feel comfortable have babies
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  • transcriber87transcriber87 member
    I never post on this board, but lurk around alot. You are right OP, I also notice that most 2nd showers are called tacky and gift grabby etc. I think it all depends on your circle of friends, hell I have a cousin who has had baby showers for all 3 of her
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  • caseynicole317caseynicole317 member
    Well I guess I'm just Tacky then. tmy first born is almost 7 and I had a shower, had one with my second it was dhs first and now my job is doing one for baby 3 and asked me to register and my bd is giving us a baby celebration with close friends and famil

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  • blush64blush64 member

    Edit, I just wanted to add my opinion. 

    Baby showers in the way we have them today are fairly new. All the "rules" would also be fairly new and are not the same for everyone. Depending on who you ask you will get different responses as to wh

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    Opinions are like azzholes.... Everyone has one. To each their own. I don't think it's tacky and ha
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    I think they're tacky unless they're in a certain set of criteria.nbsp;Not tacky if:nbsp;This is the first child bor
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  • provwifeprovwife member
    I think baby showers are a fun time for family and friends to get together and celebrate the new life inside of you no matter how many babies you have already! I think to have a full out baby shower that is as big as you had with your first is tacky, but
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  • yomama2013yomama2013 member

    With my oldest, a baby shower was thrown for me by my godmom and her friend. We did not have a baby shower for our son. With my third pregnancy, life hit us real hard and we found ourselves homeless due to foreclosure of our home and we ended up in a h

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  • JasmineeelizabethJasmineeelizabeth member

    I always thought a baby shower was to celebrate the baby.. Here people look at it as a welcoming to motherhood.

    The way you look at it really depends on what you think is tacky or not. 

    I love baby showers, and being invited to baby s

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  • LetsGoToDisneyLetsGoToDisney member

    Well I guess I am tacky because I am a FTM having a shower given by my grandmother for our whole family in another state and one by my best friend who lives in our hometown for close friends.

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