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DS Prefers Dad, tells me to go away

MrsRonBurgundyMrsRonBurgundy member
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I need some support. I know this is a situation I need to just endure, but my son, who is 2 years and change really prefers my husband. 

When I go to get him in the morning or after a nap, he says, "NO, DADDY." And says things like "Go away Mommy."

I would say he has preferred my husband since he could talk and state a preference. When he was around one he would thrash and say "dada" and reach for him when I would pick him up.

When I'm alone with him he's fine, it's just when he has a choice.

Initially I figured it was because I wasn't working, so I was around more, so he wanted the parent who wasn't there as often.

I just went back to work about two weeks ago, so now I'm wondering if it's because he's mad at me for no longer being around (we were transitioning him to nursery school, so that part is not new.)

Anyway, I know there's not much I can do, but it's extremely hurtful.

Would love to hear from people who've been there.  

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  • brettsmamabrettsmama
    Been there. It's was very hurtful and heartbreaking when my son didn't want me. Often my DH would have to hug me or kiss me first just to coerce DS into doing it. Probably in the last two months, since DS turned 3 he has gotten much better. Now he even
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  • jastl32jastl32
    DD has a strong preference for dad, too. It really makes me sad because she is always asking for him. I thought maybe it was because I'm home more with her so she misses him...then I thought it was because he was then"fun" one. DH said the other day to me
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  • fancynewbeeslyfancynewbeesly member

    My DH is on the receiving end of this--and I know it bothers him. She loves him when I am not around, but when she is a choice-she definitely prefers me. To the point that I can't do anything without her near me. I can watch her play but god forbid I d

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  • PunkyBoosterPunkyBooster member
    Of course that is hurtful. But know your ds does not mean to hurt you.

    This is ds but he really will not have anything to do with dh except during play time. I keep telling dh that this too shall pass. Hang in there and maybe try to refocus
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  • twirlyjack73twirlyjack73 member
    Sorry to say this but I was just reading about this.  It said that young kids push parents away when they realize they can't get what they want from that parent.  For example it's common if you're pregnant & haven't really been able to play
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  • BlondangelBlondangel member
    I could have written this post. My DS favors DH too and has from the beginning. I'm a SAHM so maybe that's why? I don't have any advice but I definitely know where you're coming from and how bad it sucks.
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  • dragon_chicadragon_chica member

    I think you have to keep in mind that this is pretty normal.  A preference for a parent ebbs and flows.  For the longest time DD insisted on only me.  Only momma can put my clothes on.  Only momma can wake me up.  It's gotten s

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  • steverstever member

    DS1 has preferred DH since he was about 18 months old. Sometimes he prefers me, but he's usually all about DH.

    I try not to let it get to me, but it usually does Sad

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  • islelilyislelily member

    This is our life right now, and has been since before DS2 was born. I SAH so when it's just me and the kids, he gives me kisses, hugs, etc etc, but when DH is home, it's all daddy all the time. 

    I think part of it is because DH is gone all d

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