A little bit of a vent, and a little looking for advice...

First I want to thank everyone for being so welcoming and supporting on my first post a couple weeks ago. It really means a lot to me, and seeing the strength you all have it definitely helping me feel better about my future.

Now for the rant/advice portion, sorry if it gets kind of long. So since I last posted, everything has gone crazy. When I left my husband, we agreed to be civil and remain friends for the baby's sake. I knew he would be a good father and didn't want to deprive our child of that. I even made friends with the girl he cheated on me with! I was the bigger person, and I did it for my child. Now since I have left GA and came to CT, everything has changed. First he called me asking me to go back home, he was sorry and he knew he messed up and he wanted a second chance. I was tempted. I knew I had to give it a little time though, because he just got released from a mental hospital after being diagnosed with PTSD and Depression (oh yeah rage too). I told him he had to get help first, and prove to me that things would be different. If he did that, I would go home for a trail run and we could do marriage counseling and see if there was a chance. Well that didn't last long. He ended up back in the mental hospital a second time, and went running back to the other girl at the same time. Oh by the way, did I mention he met the other girl when he was in the mental hospital the first time? Yeah, she is addicted to drugs, and he is an alcoholic. Perfect pair right? I warned him if he went back to her, then I would be gone for good, and he still chose her again. He tried telling me it was just because he is scared and he can't do it alone and with me so far away he needed somebody to help him. Sorry but last time I checked, you don't get help with depression and everything else by falling into bed with a pill popping whore ( I apologize if my language starts to get crude, but I have some strong feelings about this girl). Well he ended up getting kicked out of the Navy after that, and called me blaming me because I opened my big mouth and got him kicked out for adultery. He said "you need to learn to keep your F****** mouth shut, this is all your fault". I told him it was not my fault and if he could keep his pants shut we wouldn't be in this situation (I was quite proud of myself for that comment, because I am usually too nice and a pushover).  I then hadn't heard from him for about 5 days. I did however find out that he must have stolen my debit card to my personal account while I was packing my bags, and he withdrew $600 from my account putting it way into the negatives. I also saw some charges on the joint account, checks, that didn't make sense. He doesn't use checks, and he only has his starter checks. One was for $300 and the other was for $100. I went to the bank to file reports. I got the money back for my joint account. They pulled up copies of the checks, they were written out to the other girl! In her hand writing! She forged my signature on one of them! I was fuming! So I then had to go to the police station to file a criminal report against the other girl. On the way there, my neighbor back in GA called me saying that the girl was at the house selling furniture without my husband being there! So we called the GA police to go handle that, but by the time they got there my husband was there and he covered for her, so they got away with selling our $1,300 couch! I could care less about the furniture, but I want the half of the money I am entitled to, after all I have to pay for our unborn child! A couple days later, I got a call from a GA sheriff, they found my husband's cell phone laying next to a car abandoned on the side of the highway, it was the other girls car! They wanted me to file a missing person's report. I tried calling all his family in KY, assuming they were on their way there. Nobody had heard from him, and my neighbors hadn't seen them since the day they sold the furniture. Finally the next day I got a call from him, he showed up at his mom's house in KY. I started freaking out on him asking him why he would take all this money from his unborn child when he knows I have no job yet, no money, no medical insurance since he got kicked out of the navy, nothing. He said he didn't know, he is F***** up in the head and he needs to figure S*** out. He called me later that night yelling at me to keep my mouth shut, and telling me to drop the criminal charges against the other girl. He got way out of control and said my family started a war and he was going to finish it, then threatened to come to CT and kill my family. I hung up right away and called the local police to file a report on it, and the next morning I went to the court house to file a restraining order. He has since apologized to me, but I told him his apologies mean nothing and it is too late, he has ruined any and all chances he had of being with me or seeing our child. 

If you have made it this far, congrats, and thank you! I know it was long, but like I said my life has done a complete 180. My life is about fit for an episode of Jerry Springer, the only thing keeping me off the show at this point is the fact that I know who the baby daddy is. Luckily I have a great family who has been so supportive and helping me out. Now my questions for advice...

Obviously I want to file for sole custody, what can I expect with that? I know he is going to fight for joint custody, because he has already said he would. All of the police reports, restraining order,  and his mental state should be enough for me to win right?

I guess that is my only real question right now, unless you all have any more advice that you feel would relate or help me out. I am only 22 (almost 23) and this is my first child. My mom was a single mom most of her life so she is helping me a lot, but things have changed so much since then. I have just been so stressed about everything and I am afraid of how it is affecting my baby. Since the restraining order I have calmed down a little, but my mind is still racing. I am almost 17 weeks pregnant, but I got the baby checked out at an ER when I first got back to CT and the baby is still doing great (thank god!). I have already applied for state assistance until I can get a job here so I have state medical insurance now and financial assistance so I am not completely helpless anymore luckily.

Thanks again for reading and putting up with my rant!