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Rejection and lack of affection

BlondangelBlondangel member
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LO favors DH to the point that he completely rejects me. I'm a SAHM and he constantly says, "where's Daddy", "I want Daddy", "no Mommy, go away" and refuses to let me pick him up or get him out of bed. He'll hug and kiss DH and happily runs to him when DH gets home from work, but he doesn't show any affection to me at all. He'll only hug or kiss me if DH asks him too. I went to get him from his nap just now and when I opened the door he actually looked disappointed to see me. He then threw himself on his bed and said, "Mommy go away. Want Daddy." Sad

I'm trying not to let this get to me, but he's favored DH from the beginning and it's getting worse not better. I'm thinking we need some time apart. Maybe he should go to school or something during the day. Anyone else going through this or have any suggestions?

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  • Cheekers2010Cheekers2010 member

    I agree with you. I think maybe daycare a couple days a week or something will help. ((Hugs)) That would be hard to deal with especially since its been going on so long.

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  • keags5496keags5496 member
    So sorry your dealing with this. Maybe some time apart would help. Are there any classes that he could do? E is in a 2 year old play group at the YMCA.
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  • PGASTLPGASTL member

    I would also make sure that you hide your emotions as much as possible. This would obviously cause hurt feelings and your LO can definitely understand manipulating you. Often times LO will continue to do things because she can tell it annoys me (the li

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  • bosha711bosha711 member
    Aww, that must be so hard on you. I agree about finding a way to get some time apart. I'm sure LO will be asking "where's mommy" if you weren't there!

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  • xxbabycakesxxxxbabycakesxx member

    I'm sorry your LO is in this phase.  In our house its the other way around.  G loves me and rejects DH.  For me, though, it started once I was at home 24/7 for mat leave.

    Anyway, I agree that maybe spending some time apart may help

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  • jillybean800jillybean800 member
    I bet it's because you do the discipline and Daddy does the playing! I can see why you're sad, though. I agree, some time in a school setting might really be good for him!
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    I would also make sure that you hide your emotions as much as possible. This would obviously cause hurt feelings and y

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  • BlondangelBlondangel member
    I think I'm going to find something else for him to do during the day. Thanks for all the suggestions.
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  • kat81again2kat81again2 member
    That sucks. For us it is more the other way around but luckily not as strong so DH isn't hurt by it or anything. I think it would be a good idea to make sure he is doing things with other people & kids, and to send him to daycare a few days a week if

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