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on saying the right thing

ravenclaw1ravenclaw1 member
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a friend posted this article on her FB this morning, and I thought it was great, and also immediately thought of you ladies.

I'm sure we've all had someone say the wrong thing while dealing with grief or illness, be it losing our babies or something else. I thought you would all enjoy it as a good Sunday morning read

https://www.latimes.com/news/opinion/commentary/la-oe-0407-silk-ring-theory-20130407,0,2074046.story

 

ETA: My attempts to make this clicky are just not happening. Sorry! 

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BFP #2 - Nacho - 10/14/12, EDD 6/20/13, MMC 8 weeks, D&C 11/16/12
All testing shows both H and I are perfectly normal. Baby Nacho had triploidy. 
Back to normal business December 2012
BFP #3 - Froggy - 1/15/13, EDD 9/27/13 TEAM GREEN
It's a girl! Alice - Born 9/20/13, 8lbs 2oz

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  • mightymousymightymousy member

    ETA: haha the clicky didn't work for me either, nvm

    Thanks for sharing :) this reminds me of people I work with who were trying to insist on coming to visit me when I lost the baby even though I knew darn well they just wanted to know the story f

    BFP#1 9/28/2012 - EDD 6/3/2013 - MMC discovered 11/21/2012 @ 12w2d - D&C 11/24/2012
    BFP#2 4/4/2013 - Born at 37w3d on 11/26/13 via emergency c-section
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  • densquareddensquared member
    I love this! I know a lot of people who could seriously benefit from reading (and understanding) this theory. Great share!
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  • babystolibabystoli member

    It's good & totally common sense!!  

     

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  • csspencercsspencer member
    Love it...that's exactly what I needed when my MIL gave mw a hard time about my grief.
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    BFP #3 01/05/13 EDD 09/17/13 u/s 1/24/13-great appt, measuring 2 days ahead, NT scan 3/11/13-great scan measuring 4 days ahead, A/S 4/29/13-another great scan can't wait to meet my baby BOY!!!!!
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  • kread8kread8 member
    Love this. Thanks for sharing!

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  • linzeeh80linzeeh80 member
    Love this! I know quite a few people that could use this. Thanks for sharing!


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    Beta#1 @ 15dpo 274, P4 16.9 Beta#2 @ 18dpo 940!! Doubling time of 40 hours!! u/s @ 6w2d showed a beautiful HB of 120! u/s @ 10w1d HB 174!! Grow, LO Grow!! Found out 7/22 we are TEAM BLUE!!
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  • bananersbananers member
    I love this. Thanks for sharing.
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    BFP #2 8/22/12 | EDD 5/5/13 | DS1 born 5/9/13

    BFP #3 4/25/15 | EDD 1/7/16 | MMC 7/2/15 @ 13w1d | D&E 7/8/15

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  • LAMCH1980LAMCH1980 member

    This is a great article.  I wish everyone had to read it.

     

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  • weaslewamweaslewam member
    Wow, really great article!
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  • purpleflowerpurpleflower member
    Just shared this on facebook! I think it is so important for people to read and understand! I was constantly judged for saying things (that were not proper and graceful way of handling it) that were how I felt and I need to let them out.
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  • Bayberry12Bayberry12 member
    This is a great article. I wish everyone would just stop an think before the act so selfish.
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    BFP #5 Sept. 2013 - EDD 5.24.14
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  • kikibellekikibelle member
    This is great-thanks for sharing
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  • HoolahZingerHoolahZinger member
    What a great visual. I wish I had this on hand with my losses. Thank you so much for sharing. 
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