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Coping with my RCS

annabean33annabean33
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This is my 3rd baby, and will also be my 3rd c/s.  I tried VBAC with my second, she got to the point where I could feel her head with my hand, then stopped descending.  I ended up with a c-section, and a horrible recovery (far worse than my first).  I think if she hadn't gotten that far, I wouldn't keep wondering about all of the "what-if's" - maybe she would have come down if I just had gone a little longer.  What it this one is the one I can finally push out?

I was bored and watched all of the "Business of Being Born" episodes on Netflix a few weeks ago, and it's just made this nagging feeling worse.  I asked my OB about potential VBAC again, and it was an adamant "No" - which I completely understand.   But I'm obsessed with the thought still.

I'm just having a hard time coping with the fact that I'll never see a baby come out of me, never have that immediate bonding on my chest, and I'll be dealing with a c-section recovery with two LO's under the age of 4 at home.

Anyone else having a hard time coping?  I know a healthy baby and mommy are most important, but I'm still so blue about it.

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  • mrs.jenRNmrs.jenRN member
    I had a hard time coping with my c section. Of course I am happy that my baby and I were healthy, but how I felt about her birth isn't really related to that, kwim? I had a VBAC last month, but there are definitely unresolved feelings about my c section t
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    imagemrs.jenRN:
    I had a hard time coping with my c section. Of course I am happy that my baby and I were healthy, but how I felt about h
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  • annabean33annabean33

    My Dr took the time to pull up my medical records with me there, and showed me the specific reasons why I ended up with c-sections both times.  Both girls were Occipital Posterior ("sunny side up"), over 30 hours of labor each, I had arrested dila

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  • MrsNyberg09MrsNyberg09 member
    I still have the option to try vbac but I am having my tubes tied while they are in there otherwise I would try. The only problem if I tried is that with my DS I got an epidural and his heart rate dropped so I would be scared of that happening again.
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  • rm2013rm2013 member
    I've just had my first cs and am struggling with it. I had planned to do a natural birth and ended up with basically an emergency cs. I really am mourning the birth I wanted to have.

    On top of that, due to my age we had planned to TTC in 6 to
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