Need advice on how to get my Husband to be more involved with his daughter/helping?

Neary2011 · April 2013

My daughter is 5 months old and since six weeks after her arrival my husband hasn't really helped much with her, he will change a diaper if I ask him and feeder her some times as well, but not much of anything more. He works a full time job, and so I toldly understand that he is tried after a long day at work but I need him to be more involved with his daughter, what can I do to get him more involved and help with her more? Thank you!

kateraid · April 2013

You need to sit down and have a talk with him. Having a baby is something you do together. It's shameful that he's missing the first part of your daughters life.

bjlucas1 · April 2013

Maybe he is removed because he isn't as comfortable with you LO as you are. Since you are the primary caregiver, you probably have developed certain roles in relation to your baby. Perhaps your DH doesn't assert himself because it's so much e

kjsmith9 · April 2013

Could you give him something to be in charge of every day? DH and I both work full time. I leave at 630 while he gets her up, changes her and gets her dressed, gives her a bottle, and drops her at daycare on his way to work. I pick her up at 330, and s

tortuga47 · April 2013

My DH struggled at first too because he felt helpless. I nursed and he didn't know how or feel comfortable soothing or holding DS. One night, I had to be at a function and he was in charge of taking care of our son if he woke up. He did and my DH struggle

irishprincess135 · April 2013

DH was the same way with DD at first (although he wouldn't change a diaper or feed her at first) then when I started back to work he had to step up and do it, I think it was the same the as other people he wasn't confident with her and he thought he wa

Neary2011 · April 2013

My Husband works from 6 am to 6pm. and he has to leave the house by 5am., so I can't give him a task in the morning, so I try to get him to do something a night for me, like feed her bedtime cup or give her a bath or ever put her to bed, but his excuse is

spainy17 · April 2013

Can I just say these stories are giving me hope because DH and I are really struggling with this right now. I nurse and DD has special needs and is unable to be bottle fed so he really has not bonded with her at all and she screams when he tries. He does

Neary2011 · April 2013

kjsmith9:
Could you give him something to be in charge of every day? DH and I both work full time. I leave at 630 while he g

MrsBigTime · April 2013

Does he not want to be involved or does he just assume that you'll do it (and probably do it better), so he doesn't help? There's a big difference, IMHO.

I remember once, when we were first married, my DH took the last q-tip and didn't refi

BLPL101 · April 2013

OP, you aren't alone! I could have written this myself.

Neary2011 · April 2013

MrsBigTime:

Does he not want to be involved or does he just assume that you'll do it (and probably do it better), so he doe

Neary2011 · April 2013

bjlucas1:

Maybe he is removed because he isn't as comfortable with you LO as you are. Since you are the primary caregiver,

shannsa1 · April 2013

I told my husband he was not a "sperm donor" but a parent and he needed to start acting like it. We also scheduled an hour a day of me time. (we both work) So each day we are guaranteed to have one hour to ourselves and the other has to figure

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