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Baby shower and blended families

HisChamaoleGirlHisChamaoleGirl member
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Dh has a son and we are expecting a baby together in September. When a conversation came up of whether we are having a baby shower or not I was told having a shower for a second child is tacky. Well, it's my first bio child. Because DH has a child does that mean its going to be frowned upon for me to have on now? Thoughts?

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  • Lelo2006Lelo2006 member
    Not tacky! You should have a shower!
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  • StayingSecretStayingSecret member
    If someone offers to throw you one, have one.  But maybe don't expect your DH's family to come if they are the ones who said it was tacky to have a shower for a 2nd kid.  That's likely to be their mindset (that you shouldn't have one).  If
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    If someone offers to throw you one, have one. nbsp;But maybe don't expect your DH's family to come if they are the o
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  • coraggiosacoraggiosa member
    Not tacky at all. If someone offers to throw you a shower, feel free to accept without hesitation :) 

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  • HisChamaoleGirlHisChamaoleGirl member
    No one in DH family has said it to me, but based on other comments (why are you having a baby when the focus should be on SS) I am sure news of a shower won't be received well. The actual comment was made by a coworker.

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    No one in DH family has said it to me, but based on other comments (why are you having a baby whe
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  • 1026pumpkin1026pumpkin member

    I don't think it's tacky at all.  I agree with the sentiment that showers are meant to welcome a new mother to motherhood and shower her with gifts and advice.  I wouldn't give a second thought to you having a shower.

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  • 526SadieSadie526SadieSadie member

    It would be tacky for YOU to have a second shower, but this is your first child - you've never had a first shower so you're totally fine.

    If DH's side isn't into the idea of a shower for his second child, that's their business but your family&n

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    No one in DH family has said it to me, but based on other comments (why are you having a baby when the fo
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    Agreed 
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