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NBR but i really need advice :(

KristySnyderKristySnyder
in May 2013 Moms

ok so my ex-husband and me have been apart for about a year. I re-married in Feb. to my high school sweetheart... We are due with OUR daughter in May. Now I have a son with my ex-husband. and my husband now also has a son with his ex. Now because of haven his son every other weekend and 2 or 3 days during the weeks we don't have him on the weekend. So My son hears him call my husband daddy all the time. Which when Kayla is born she will be calling him daddy all the time too cause he will be her father.

Well anyways, My ex-husband picked up our son today from daycare and I guess Lukus asked if he was going to go see "Daddy Mike" and now he is all pissed off at me and telling me I have to train Lukus to only say Mike and not daddy. Cause he isn't his daddy...But I don't feel that I should yell at my 2 year old for saying it when my husband (Mike) is there for him 24/7 and his real dad is only around when he feels like it!

I am so lost I don't hear Lukus call Mike daddy unless mike's son is around or when our family is around talking about how Mike is Kayla's daddy....

Am I supposed to yell at my 2 year old and tell him he can't call his step dad daddy, or daddy mike?  *****CRYING******

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Re: NBR but i really need advice :(

  • Jabe&AmieJabe&Amie member
    IMO, I wouldn't scold him for calling your husband Daddy. He doesn't have to be his biological father to be a dad, especially if he is there for him more than your ex. It's too bad it bothers your ex, and hopefully he's not yelling at your son for calling
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  • botanicalblissbotanicalbliss member
    No.  You should not  yell at your 2 year old and tell him not to call your husband daddy.  You and your current husband need to decide if you want your son to call him daddy or not.  Your ex needs to suck it up and realize that because
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  • lashanna92lashanna92
    I know that your new husband is not his father. He's picking up on what he's hearing, not his or your fault. I personally don't see where daddy mike is so unacceptable. I would tell him that daddy is daddy and daddy mike is mike. If he continues to call h
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  • mistysmclaurymistysmclaury
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    No, you don't yell at your 2 year old, but you do correct him. If he calls your husband daddy, you correct him w

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  • MermaidNMMermaidNM
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    No, you don't yell at your 2 year old, but you do correct him. If he calls your husband daddy, you correct him with '
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  • MomlovesEloiseMomlovesEloise member
    image2010Bride2be:
    No, you don't yell at your 2 year old, but you do correct him. If he calls your husband daddy, you correct him with '
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  • michelle04usmichelle04us member

    I am in this exact situation. My son(7) calls my FI dad. Now being older and knowing who his real biological father is does make a difference but I don't correct him(anymore). When he started I asked him why he wanted to call him dad and he said it was

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  • TradeMamaTradeMama member
    I've had this problem. My DS is now 7 but when he was maybe 4 or 5 he asked my now DH if it was ok to call him daddy. It was so awkward at that time to be put in that position, for everyone involved.

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  • KristySnyderKristySnyder
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    I've had this problem. My DS is now 7 but when he was maybe 4 or 5 he asked my now DH if it was ok to call him daddy.
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    No, you don't yell at your 2 year old, but you do correct him. If he calls your husband daddy, you correct him w

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  • BeckyTheEngineerBeckyTheEngineer
    image2010Bride2be:

    No, you don't yell at your 2 year old, but you do correct him. If he calls your husband daddy, you correct him w

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  • CleokinsCleokins member
    FWIW, I think your son should choose what he wants to call Mike. My parents separated when I was 6 months old and my mom re-married when I was just under 2 years old. I always called my step-dad "Daddy Bob" and while I know this hurt my biological father'
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