Regretting no funeral .....siggy warning.....

weddedwife · April 2013

Anyone else not have a funeral and regret it?

At the time I thought it would be "weird" having a funeral for an unborn baby. I also thought it would be too hard to endure.

Now I know that nothing could've fully protected us from the pain we were about to endure. And my son wasn't "unborn", I have birth to him. I have quite a few regrets about my son's death and this is a big one. How could I not have a funeral for my child?? Didn't he deserve one? I think it would've helped make it "real" for other people too, instead of the awful silence we endured after the fact.

I am so awful. The more time passes the more I wish we had done SOMETHING for him.

jbranden12 · April 2013

((hugs)). We did not have a funeral for Patricia. At the time, it just didn't feel like something we needed to do. We don't have a lot of family in the area and they were all able to make it to the hospital to see her. Plus, DH and I are not religious

Noethola · April 2013

It is so hard, because we were faced with so many decisions we never expected to have in front of us. I think some regrets are inevitable. I regret that we did not get her hand prints. We will never get the opportunity to

jess123456 · April 2013

You are SO not awful. You made the decision that you thought was best at that time. I also have tons of regrets. We did have a small service and people still don't talk about it.

Like others have said, it is never too late. Perhaps you want to d

Heatherhah · April 2013

A previous poster already suggested but you could do a small service (Memorial) and have pics or anything that was his and speak about him. I don't think that there is ever a wrong time to celebrate or memorialize your baby boy! Please don't beat

Petunia844 · April 2013

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I agree with Heather, if it's something you really regret you can always have one, it is never too late.

That being said we didn't, he was cremated and DH and I took his ashes to his lake and s

karebear57 · April 2013

You are a great mom to both your children. Like pp said, maybe have a memorial service...it's never too late. We never had a funeral or anything like that, we just had Bri cremated. My regret us I didn't take ny own pictures of her or any with her. I feel

angelsnight · April 2013

You are not awful. It all happens so fast and we're given very little time to make decisions we never thought we would have to make. In the past, and much still today stillbirth and pregnancy loss just isn't talked about and we are kind of

Williamandshawnna · April 2013

HUGS

You are not awful. We all did the best we could at the time. Given so many choices, during the worst moments of our lives.

We didn't have a service for our boys either. I do understand what you mean by the awful silence. That silence

jebretz · April 2013

I agree with PP's that you will always have regrets, because you had to make so many big decisions when you were not in a good mindset.

Our children were buried in an anonymous burial that we were not at (long story but I am willing to shar

Bayberry12 · April 2013

I feel your pain. We didn't do anything either. We were give options, but I did not want to deal with anything. I was in shock, and denial and I couldn't make any decisions. So I did nothing. I regret this so much, and I h

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