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Late Term and Child Loss
lrichmond86
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cousin's pregnancy... ticker warning
lrichmond86
member
Ticker warning
I found out from my cousin's daughter, who is a student at the school I teach at, that his new gf is pregnant. A little back story... he had his first when he was 17. He's 24 now. He is an alcoholic who can't hold a job, had five dui's in the last three years, and has very little to do with the upbringing of his first daughter. All in all he is an irresponsible parent at best. To top it of, my mom says he was "POed" when he found out she was pregnant Because he thought she was on the pill.
I am so angry about this I can barely put it into words. Why is it that there are so many of us who are wonderful parents and had to lose their baby, while he has two that he didn't want and doesn't take care of? It seems so unfair! And on top of that, How dare be be angry about the miracle that is coming into their lives? ! Last I checked, he was a consenting adult. If he didn't want more children, he shouldn't be having unprotected sex! I truly hope that they have a healthy baby at the end of this... I wouldn't wish a loss on anyone. But as a loss mom, it just makes me so angry when people don't appreciate how lucky they are to have a healthy baby. I feel awful for being less than happy for them, but I really don't see this as a good situation.
I found out from my cousin's daughter, who is a student at the school I teach at, that his new gf is pregnant. A little back story... he had his first when he was 17. He's 24 now. He is an alcoholic who can't hold a job, had five dui's in the last three years, and has very little to do with the upbringing of his first daughter. All in all he is an irresponsible parent at best. To top it of, my mom says he was "POed" when he found out she was pregnant Because he thought she was on the pill.
I am so angry about this I can barely put it into words. Why is it that there are so many of us who are wonderful parents and had to lose their baby, while he has two that he didn't want and doesn't take care of? It seems so unfair! And on top of that, How dare be be angry about the miracle that is coming into their lives? ! Last I checked, he was a consenting adult. If he didn't want more children, he shouldn't be having unprotected sex! I truly hope that they have a healthy baby at the end of this... I wouldn't wish a loss on anyone. But as a loss mom, it just makes me so angry when people don't appreciate how lucky they are to have a healthy baby. I feel awful for being less than happy for them, but I really don't see this as a good situation.
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Re: cousin's pregnancy... ticker warning
I'm sorry. I know how hard it is to try to do everything right and see some people that are so irresponsible get pregnant and get to keep their babies, it seems so easy for them. And you are right, it is not fair.
My much younger cou
DH cousin is now expectiong her 2nd baby , side story she is 22 and announced she would have an abortion at Sydney's memorial but decided to keep that baby and now has an almost 1 year old little boy and is now expecting her second in October. Why does
That really does suck. In situations like this, I feel so very bad for the child who didn't get to pick to the life they are about to come into.
Breaks my heart.
BFP#1 - 11/27/09 EDD 8/5/10, DS1 arrived 7/24/10 via emergency c-section.
BFP#2 - 6/18/12 EDD 2/23/13, sweet baby girl born sleeping on 10/4/12 at 19 weeks, 3 days.
BFP #3 - 1/18/13 EDD 10/1/13, natural mc on 2/2/13 at 5 weeks, 4 days.
BFP #4 - 8/29/13 EDD 5/12/14, our sweet rainbow, DS2 born 4/29/14 via c-section