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Ilumine
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The next SS saga - you cannot make this stuff up.
Ilumine
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Players - SS, ExGirfriend Marcy, NewGirlfriend Agnes, Best guy friend Morris
Ok, so remember when I told you that SS started dating this Marcy, the 14 yo (though we were told she was 15). We were not happy with the situation. We tried to break them up, but realized that due to SS's definitions of "boyfriend/girlfriend" and "dating", we were sort of stuck.
See, the kids now a days can be boyfriend/girlfriend and "date" even if they never spend alone time together and only see each other at school.
And while we explained the issues of Statuatory Rape and just how flighty/dramatic 14 yo girls are, we were told to butt out - especially when Marcy's mother and her SO said that it was ok. DH's response was to never ever allow them to be alone together OTHER THAN the one school dance. Since we drive him everywhere it was easy enough to do EXCEPT for one time where he walked to the mall after school. He got punished for the lie to us.
So, we can sort of glean that she is a bit dramatic while they are dating - given some of the stunts she pulled while they were dating. But to DH and I, they all looked like a dumb girl making her boyfriend jealous to get a rise out him. She broke up wiht him after only 7 weeks.
As soon as she broke it off, she started playing SS's emotions. Kissing other boys infront of him in the lunch room. Calling/emailing/facebooking/texting/skyping SS at all hours. Telling him that she made a mistake but that its best for right now...only to date someone else the next day. You know the highschool queenbee *** stuff.
DH and I pretty much told SS that a) we told him so and b) that the only way this would end was when he finally grew some balls and stopped replying to her. SS did not listen (what did WE know about how teens acted today). And he continued to allow her to communicate with him UNTIL he started to have feelings for Marcy's friend Agnes.
Now, both DH and I told him not to play with fire. We TOLD him that this girl would ramp up her crazy. He replied that even with the bro-code (wtf?) he could date Agnes if he wanted. And that he wasnt going to let Marcy tell him what to do.
Ok, so he asks Agnes to the prom. Marcy ramps up her crazy and starts spreading rumors about SS...one that she broke up with him because she didnt want to cathc "The Aids" (I specificially asked SS if that is how she phrased it and he said that is what his other friend said).
Again, DH and I told SS to ignore her and that now that he is dating Agnes, Marcy would ramp up but then would end up loosing interest when she stopped getting anything out of it...that being a rise from SS, Agnes and Marcos (now I have no idea why SS's friend has anything to do with this but he is getting some of Marcy's craziness too).
That was until Yesterday.
SS texts me from school. (follow this bouncy ball). Marcy bothered Agnes on FB. Agnes told her mother. AM called Marcy's mother. MM told AM that Marcy is doing this to protect Agnes from SS. That Marcy is cutting herself because SS used to cut himself, that his father is abusive and that I do drugs.
Ok, so DH is now pissed (though I suggested that we intervene at the Aids rumor). Why? Because we just had a stupid CPS visit because of SS. Now it was closed. And we had to force them to close it with the CORRECT phrasing, it is still out there. AND because this is partiallly SS's fault.
SS DID cut himself ONCE...on a dare. But when we pushed him to see if he told Marcy about this, he acknowledged that he did and that he may have exagerated the number of times to look cool.
And DH's abuse? Remember that CPS visit? That happened while they were dating and he got put on restriction during it. He never told her that it was HIS fault.
As for my Drug Abuse? He swears up and down that he has never mentioned me and drugs together. But he has made disparaging comments about me - all in the fit of anger and he cannot remember exactly what he said, but it never had anything to do with drugs.
All the ****ing progress that kid has shown since that CPS incident and I am STILL having to deal with ****ing ****.
SO DH is calling our lawyer and the school today. And I am calling Agnes' mother because she has called us.
And the best part, SS now tells us that this girl has claimed that her mother's live in boyfriend has raped her. So my worry is that she will throw this accussation out at SS. The ONLY bright spot in all of this? SS has all of their written SKYPE conversations saved. These have those accussations and others in them.
Now, I wish that he had come to us with those comments at the beginning. Because IF she is being molested, we could have helped her. And if she was lying, we could ahve helped her. But now, I am in defensive mode and I dont care about protecting her, but protecting my family.
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Re: The next SS saga - you cannot make this stuff up.
Is the lawyer call in prep for possible rape allegations?
Not so much for that
OMG.
OMG. The idea of parenting teenagers nauseates me.
For whatever it's worth, it sounds like your SS is one of the more innocent parties in this.
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Yeah, I'd be nipping that one immediately and I think a lawyer is a smart move. Both mom and daughter need a wake up call.
So sorry you're dealing with this. I'd be BSC by now if I were you.
My first reaction was to laugh, but that is because I have met you and know you are not a crack ho!!! Now I'm laughing again sorry!!!
On a more serious note am I right in thinking that SS did actually say that his father was abusive an
Oh geez. If you don't have a drinking problem already, now is time to start working on one...
I cannot imagine how livid and sickened you must be by all this. My son will 14 this summer and now I'm terrified of what he might encount
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