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I need a man's input

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Hi.  I am almost 38, and I found out I was pregnant with #3.  I have a 4yo and 2yo.  My husband never wanted kids, but b/c he loved me, he agreed to our 2 planned pregnancies.  He has had a rough time with things(demands of raising kids) since #2 arrived, and he ended up filing for divorce in Feb.  When he told me about the divorce, I was devastated that night, and I forgot to take my BCP.  He realized a week later, that it would be horrible to live apart and break up our family, so he decided not to go through with the divorce.  Now, a few weeks later, I find out I am pregnant.  He does not want the baby.  He says it is over if I go through with the pregnancy.  I don't want my kids to grow up w/o a father, but I never thought I could end a pregnancy.  I am such a mess right now.  I am 7weeks pregnant.  I feel it is unfair and selfish of me to ask him to be a father to a 3rd child.  If a man files for divorce and then changes his mind, do you think he will eventually leave anyways a few years down the road?  If I knew he wouldn't stick around even with just the 2 kids, then I would go through with having a 3rd. 
 
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Re: I need a man's input

  • T3hHusbandT3hHusband member
    What a rough time. Tell him kick rocks. Sorry to say, but that's not a real man. NO ONE gives an ultimatum like that, especially under those circumstances.You'll be able to find someone else, who is 1000x better. Might not be "the father", But sure as hel
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    Just tell him see ya and make sure you get as much child support as you can.

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  • PrimePrime member
    Don't terminate because of the threat of him leaving.  It sounds like he is one foot out the door regardless.  Maybe you guys can try counseling.

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  • WulfgarWulfgar member

    Let him go, that is my advice.  But before he goes I would have an expert show him what it will cost him for the next 18 years if he leaves that might change his mind.

    Child support etc usually really hurts the father especially if he doesn'

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  • T3hHusbandT3hHusband member
    And if he doesn't pay it, it'll bite him in the arse for more than just 18 years.
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  • BkuhmanBkuhman member
    I agree with the others. Tell him to go. No way should you terminate a pregnancy bc the man doesn't want the child. He signed up a divorce before so he will just do it again later. One foot in the door and the other out..... Tell him bye bye and keep the
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