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October 2011 Moms
Shannon526
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STM guilt (vent)
Shannon526
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Sorry in advance is this gets tl;dr...
Tomorrow is the day I'll be induced, as I stated in the post below.. so today, of course, I'm having mini hormonal meltdowns knowing that today is L's "last day" as an only child. My brain is telling me to calm the eff down and get it together so I'm able to enjoy the last day of just having one child, while my heart (aka hormones) is telling me that it will never be the same ever again and making me feel like I've betrayed L or something nuts like that.
Please tell me I'm not losing my mind and that all you S(+)TM's have felt/experienced something similar.
I know once DD2 is born I'll be wondering what I ever did before her, but today, as I'm writing this post, I'm crying like a baby because I feel bad for L.
And to top it all off, I tried to cut L's hair last night and I totally gave her a mullet. Mommy fail.
Wah. Vent over.
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Re: STM guilt (vent)
You are giving her the gift of a sibling, you are not taking anything away from her you are giving her more people to love and that will love her.
I think planning some special time with L after DD2 is born is important but also having
hugs, I know I am going to be a mess as well... which is one of the reasons why I hope I go into labor on my own and not have to be induced. i want to try to avoid all those "this is the last time..." moments because it is going to be hard enough
Married 08/18/07
BFP 02/15/11 EDD 10/27/11 Born at 35w3d on 09/25/11
BFP 10/13/12 EDD 06/25/13 Born at 37w0d on 06/04/13
BFP 12/11/15 EDD 08/23/16 Early miscarriage
BFP 02/02/16 EDD 10/16/16
I'm not a STM, but I'm positive those feelings are completely normal. I imagine if we have a 2nd I will be the same way. L will be so excited to get a sibling and it will be wonderful. I love my siblings and can't imagine not having them.
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I felt this the worst with my DD. I cried for weeks before DS1 was born. And for weeks after because she was having such a hard adjustment. (She was 3 when he was born) After a few months, we all settled in and I couldn't believ
I know I'm not around much....stupid mobile bump...but I remember feeling the same way and asking the same thing here before DS#2 was born and someone, I don't remember who, posted this poem. IT will make you cry but it sure made me feel better!! I thi
Married 08/18/07
BFP 02/15/11 EDD 10/27/11 Born at 35w3d on 09/25/11
BFP 10/13/12 EDD 06/25/13 Born at 37w0d on 06/04/13
BFP 12/11/15 EDD 08/23/16 Early miscarriage
BFP 02/02/16 EDD 10/16/16
Thanks ladies... I appreciate all of your input about this.
Penny you are right, I just have to remind myself I'm giving her a sister, not taking something away from her. You are also right that hair grows back lol.
Feetles, that totall
Me too, it's such a wonderful poem.
Shanno
Shannon, I totally get what you are saying. I've had a lot of the same guilt, especia
I wonder if I am the odd one for not feeling guilty about having another. Perhaps I haven't thought about it enough or maybe I'm simply in denial that there will be a DD#2 in 6 weeks.
The poem made me cry and yes, I imagine that I wi