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Late Term and Child Loss
lenya_35
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Is it so hard to say "I'm sorry"? (vent)
lenya_35
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We just got back from a 5-day vacation with some of DH's close friends. We were there with one couple, their 1-year old son and another friend. They all know about our loss (obviously) and not one of them said anything to me about it. The closest we got was the husband made a toast at dinner "to getting through a rough winter" which was nice.
DH says they just didn't want to upset me. They probably also didn't know what to say. But honestly, I'm already upset about my loss, and it upsets me more to think that everyone has already forgotten June.
All I need is a "I'm so sorry for your loss. How are you holding up?" that's all. Why is it so hard for people to say that?
There are a lot of people who haven't said anything to me about it. Not even a simple "I'm sorry." Don't get me wrong, we've gotten some wonderful cards from a few people, and those little words mean the world to me. But there are a lot of people who have heard the news through DH or my mom and haven't said a peep to me.
Do you find that people are awkward with you about your loss? Mostly just venting here but I wish it was easier for people to offer support.
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Re: Is it so hard to say "I'm sorry"? (vent)
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