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Socialization "concerns" vent

I hate when people make comments about only children having less socialization. Having a sibling doesn't equal socialization. What social benefit does a 2 or 3 year old get from a newborn? EVERY parent should be concerned about peer socialization. Making sure my kid is not socially awkward does not require me to keep popping out babies thankyouverymuch.
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  • I worry more about socialization because I am a sahm than because she is an only. I agree with you that having a sibling doesn't really teach then to socialize. It can help with learning to share, especially for the younger child... But that is also somet
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    I hate when people make comments about only children having less socialization. Having a sibling doesn't equal soci
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  • I can only speak anecdotally, but most of the most socially awkward people that I know are people who have siblings. My most extroverted and up-for-any-new-situation friends are onlies. Nothing is absolute. 
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  • I wholeheartedly agree!

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    Socialization, from my perspective, is a rather more than learning to get along with peers. To that end, a newborn in the h
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    Socialization, from my perspective, is a rather more than learning to get along with peers. To that end, a newborn i

  • Umm...my best friend is the oldest of four and is about as socially awkward as they come.  
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  • I have 4 siblings and my mom ran an inhome daycare until I was in school. I am very socially awkward.
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  • I agree with you.  An only child can be very social.  My son is incredibly social and interactive.  I do a lot of things with him and he learns from what I teach him.  He is absolutely not socially awkward.  I feel that both SAHM
  • My sister and I didn't really communicate until we were in our 20's.  We lived in the same house, but had nothing in common.

    My DH doesn't talk to his brother, although he is close to his sister.

    So much for siblings = socialization.&n

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  • Of all the things I worry about as a parent, DD being socially awkward is not one of them. So far she is shaping up to be the most extroverted toddler I've ever met.
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  • I am the only child of a SAHM and I am SUPER extroverted.  It kind of forces you to be, kwim?

    My mom was really great about saying, "Go up to that little girl and introduce yourself".  Nice, gentle little pushes to be social as young as

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  • I agree 100%. Both my brother and I were "socially awkward" but all of our only child friends were not. I don't think my daughter will be, because she has cousins her own age, is in daycare with children her age and I take her out when I can. I hate the c
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    Socialization, from my perspective, is a rather more than learning to get along with peers. To that end, a newborn i

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    Socialization, from my perspective, is a rather more than learning to get along with peers. To that end, a newborn i

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  • I HATE when people use this as some kind of guilt trip.  My DD is very high needs/spirited.  I have a coworker who always tells me that it's because she's an only child, she needs siblings, to be socialized.  Every time this conversation

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  • I own a preschool.  Socialization has nothing to do with a sibling, having one or not.  Socialization has everything to do with exposing your child to new situations, encouraging them to talk to new people, learning to take turns, sharing, li

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  • I think everyone makes really good points here. The truth is, there is never any absolute anything when it comes to kids. A child with many siblings could be very selfish and socially inept; while an only child may be a social butterfly. I do agree tha

  • Oh and I should add that socialization doesn't mean that the child is outgoing.  A socialized child is one that understands how the "big world" works.  They may not be the first to go up to a stranger and say hello, but they understand the so

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  • Sorry I seem to be so uneducated on the differences. Pretty common misconception I guess. Thanks for the clarification. Luckily, I don't have to worry yet about the social behavior of my yet-to-be-born children.

    I suppose in that case, I am not s

  • Just realized I got really off subject. Sorry everyone.

    I agree that a singlton is no more likely to have social difficulties than if the same kid had a sibling, especially if they have a parent who is attune to it as OP seems to be. 

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    Sorry I seem to be so uneducated on the differences. Pretty common misconception I guess. Thanks for the clari

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    ER 7/3/11 (our 6th anniversary) - 8 retrieved/7 mature/fert ....ET 7/6/11 - 2 beautiful grade A 8 cell embryos

    Beta 7/18/11 - 149!!! Beta 7/21/11 - 311 Beta 7/28/11 - 2,000 8/5/11 - Empty Sac 8/8/11 - There's a yolk sac and maybe a heartbeat 8/12/11 - Fetal pole, yolk sac, heartbeat 8/18/11 - Baby looks GREAT!
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