Would this offend you?

heljo16 · April 2013

If someone told you not to send them a thank you note for the shower gift you gave, or for any future party they throw/have, would that offend you? I'm planning to tell my pregnant cousin not to send me a thank you note cause I'll just throw it away. It is a huge waste. I'd rejoice if someone told me that cause those things are a pain in the to send.

ariaforte8 · April 2013

Eh, it's weird to specifically ask. I value an in person thank you when a gift is given way more than a note. However, I would never remember when sending out a stack of thank you notes the one random person who didn't want one.

Just accept

brauchtm · April 2013

I seriously hate doing thank you notes - with two kids, I feel like I am constantly writing them. I would be THRILLED if my friends/family told me not to worry about sending a thank you!!!

RoxZ32 · April 2013

Honestly one less thank you card is not going to make any difference for your cousin. Plus, there's a good chance she's already purchased thank you cards so let them serve their purpose rather than wasting them. Do what you please with it when it comes in

kaleyandjason · April 2013

Um... that would be awkward to me. Just accept the note and throw it away when you get it. She doesn't have to know any difference.

mamaHippo23 · April 2013

I certainly wouldn't be offended, but I know some people who are sticklers for thank-you notes. They would probably feel weird/ guilty about not sending a note so I would just let them go ahead and send me one. No one expects people to hang on to the card

BeckyTheEngineer · April 2013

I'd find it weird. Let her send you a card.

lily_721 · April 2013

I would never remember if one person said "please dont send it."

sherina825 · April 2013

It wouldn't offend me because I think thank you notes are a waste of time and effort, especially when the person gave you the gift in person. But with that being said, my aunt would die from shock if someone didn't give her a thank you note, so it j

vindaloo · April 2013

It's weird. You're going to forbid her from sending thankyou notes to you in the future, and she's now obligated to remember not to send you one? Weird. Just toss the note when you get it, it's not like people normally save them as some sort of memento

babyalex124 · April 2013

Maybe if it somehow came up in conversation. I wouldn't just say that out of the blue, and I definitely wouldn't say "I'll just throw it away." I mean, we all throw them away, but who likes to hear that about a sweet note that they wrote? &nbs

ScottsdaleMama · April 2013

I actually had someone say this to me at my wedding shower. I was very taken aback by it but maybe that was because she was a friend of my MIL and I had never even met her. I found it kind of rude, like she was mocking the other women that value etiquette

MrsJ723 · April 2013

While I wouldn't be offended, I would think it was a little strange that someone told me not to send one. The habit of writing a thank you note is so ingrained that I'd probably send one anyway. It isn't like it is going to take up tha

pinottoparenthood · April 2013

ariaforte8:
Eh, it's weird to specifically ask. I value an in person thank you when a gift is given way more than a note. How

lisa5201 · April 2013

Offended is the wrong word, but I would def think it was weird and, frankly, rude, for someone to dictate to me whether or not I should write them a thank you note.

ehnasto · April 2013

I wouldn't be offended. People did this for me at our wedidng (mostly friends). To those people who said no thank you note I texted or thanked in person the next time I saw them.

homebird · April 2013

No. I think thank you notes are such a waste, unless the person wasn't there to see you open the gift. But I send them because I know a lot of people get offended if they DON'T get one.

My mom actually keeps track, lol. I usually have no idea if

JaimeCH · April 2013

I've had someone write in the card that went with the present that part of my present is that I don't need to send them a thank you. I don't think I kept track of that and ended up sending a thank you anyway though. I do feel like they are a waste a lo

jensriot · April 2013

sherina825:
It wouldn't offend me because I think thank you notes are a waste of time and effort, especially when the person g

BelhurstBride · April 2013

It'd make me wonder if I had forgotten one in the past and if it was a passive aggressive way of telling me not to bother.

HoolahZinger · April 2013

kaleyandjason:
Um... that would be awkward to me. Just accept the note and throw it away when you get it. She doesn't have to

laurakaz13 · April 2013

I think people who don't send thank you notes suck, so I would never not send one.

rsage53 · April 2013

I would find it strange if someone said that to me out of the blue. However, I am someone who always writes thank you cards and I just don't get why people complain about doing them. Someone took the time to choose and buy something for you

Want a personalized experience?

Would this offend you?

Re: Would this offend you?

Choose Another Board

Search Boards