Awkward shower dilemma...

atlb · April 2013

I am pregnant with my 4th girl. I had a shower with my first and turned down a shower for the twins. Last summer, we moved across the country due to MH's job. His boss is insisting that they are going to throw a shower for me at his office (he is a professor at a University). I begged him to decline the shower, and he said he tried, but his boss isn't budging. I feel SO awkward because not only do I not know most of these people, but the boss is throwing it, so I worry that they will feel like they are required to get me a gift. I have no idea what to do.

The only solution I have come up with so far is to pretend that I am on strict bed rest and unable to leave the house to attend a shower (and hope that if we can avoid the subject long enough, she will forget about it and move on). MH is in a tough spot politically, and he doesn't know what to do. Suggestions?

jackson290721 · April 2013

Say thank you for them being so thoughtful but you don't need anything and wouldn't feel comfortable with it. Just keep declining. No one can force you to do anything.

KdgTeacher · April 2013

atlb:
I am pregnant with my 4th girl. I had a shower with my first and turned down a shower for the twins. Last summer

atlb · April 2013

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atlb · April 2013

jackson290721:
Say thank you for them being so thoughtful but you don't need anything and wouldn't feel comfortable with it. J

jackson290721 · April 2013

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BeckyTheEngineer · April 2013

So you think the best thing to do is lie and make up medical complications to avoid a party? That is a horrible idea. For so many reasons.

You could keep delaying, and say that you can't make it on any given day. Or, you could accept that th

atlb · April 2013

BeckyTheEngineer:
So you think the best thing to do is lie and make up medical complications to avoid a party? That is a horri

blondolphn · April 2013

While it may be awkward, it also would give you a chance to get to know some of his coworkers. Itscalways awkward until then.

BeckyTheEngineer · April 2013

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EastCoastBride · April 2013

Just accept it. I get the awkwardness, but just accept it.

lisa5201 · April 2013

I think the fake medical excuse is a terrible idea, just bad vibes in general, but God forbid you get caught lying, wayyyyy awkward, potential for a lot of hurt feelings, confusion, anger, general weirdness

I think y

atlb · April 2013

Thanks, ladies. I will get over it and accept. It really is super nice of them to do, especially since we don't know anyone here. I know she just wants me to feel loved and I am appreciative of that.

Ladams30 · April 2013

Accept the shower. Anything you receive that you don't want/need can either be returned or donated to a children's shelter.

If this woman who is throwing the shower in charge of whether or not YH's job is long term or not, then let h

HappyMrsK · April 2013

I would just accept it. I understand why you would feel awkward, but it is nice of her to offer. Plus, it will give you a chance to get to know her and your husband's coworkers better. I'm sure it's not going to be a huge production, so I'd just go with t

RachieTK · April 2013

EastCoastBride:
Just accept it. I get the awkwardness, but just accept it.

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rpalen29 · April 2013

I would just be honest. Maybe you can write an email to his boss and tell him you already have 3 young children, and your set with everything. Tell him if he wants to get you a gift, he can, but other co workers shouldn't be forced with buying you a gift

girlmama83 · April 2013

Just go with it. It's polite of you to want to decline but if she wants to throw it its probably going to happen regardless! It's not like you have to do a registry so you will probably just get some cute clothes and diapers or something. Things you can n