Really? You think it is God's will I'm infertile???

IBackBevo · April 2013

So I posted this on my facebook wall last friday:

"So I went to a new RE (reproductive endocrinologist) today and he told me with my undetectable AMH and low AFC that there would be no point in wasting time/money on IVF if I wanted another child. But I believe in the power of God..and Clomid."

My Dad posts: "Believing is only half of it. God's will is the other half."

I read this in my office at work and started crying. Then my office manager walks in. I look like some sort of nut...sitting in my office crying.

I'm already so conflicted. All of this has been on my mind almost non-stop. I don't know what to do...and I'm thinking about even going to see yet another RE for a 2nd opinion on freezing my eggs. DH doesn't feel like now is a good time to TTC, go through IF treatment and potentially go through another high risk, miserable pregnancy that had me so nauseauted I couldn't function for the first 5 months and on bedrest for the last couple of months. And, really, he is right. He is taking over a new medical practice for a doc who had a stroke -- in addition to the one he already has. I'm just now getting back into the swing of things with my job and am starting to finally feel somewhat like myself again after the pre-e, bedrest and c-section. (And I still need to lose 30 lbs.) And LO is so young that I hate to take away from him. We were also hoping to sell our house and build a new one in the next year or so as our house is not kid friendly (2nd and 3rd story porches, swimming pool, etc.). But I don't want to lose the chance at number 2...

The last thing I need is someone telling me in so many words that it might not be "God's will" that I have a second child.

EDIT: I responded: "Well, I talk to God, too, and he hasn't filled me in that it is part of his plan that I only have one child. In fact, I'm pretty sure that if he intended for me to only have one child, he would not have put the desire in my heart for a second one. Maybe it is his will that I get a second miracle with even worse stats thant he first time!"

Ruthie04 · April 2013

Ugh. I hate the "God's Will" comments. I was so hostile about them after my miscarriage. Why does anyone think it will make someone feel better?

ETA: Good for you for being so open on FB! I wish I had that kind of courage!

kmc84 · April 2013

Comments about what god does and does not want for you!! My mom died very suddenly last December and then my step dad died suddenly three weeks later. Then a few months later I had a m/c. I had so many people tell me 'god never gives you more than you can

new+tothis · April 2013

::hugs:: I hate that. I'm sorry. I hope he meant well. I had a "friend" post tons of stuff on FB about how ART is morally wrong and those children are not made from love. It was really hurtful.

IBackBevo · April 2013

Thanks for the responses. I don't think my Dad meant to be hurtful...and he isn't morally opposed to ART. He has been through alot in his own life. I just think he is insensitive to the issue.

Jenny952 · April 2013

Ugh, I hate that commnet. Is it God's will that someone gets breast cancer? Or diabetes? And if so, that means that those people shouldn't take advantage of the medical technology out that can help them. Some people take the God th