Lottery - update

pastalady · April 2013

Just wanted to clarify I was hoping for like $200 towards DD's college fund or something. We totally don't need the money and like I said, we loan them money a lot.

Just stings a little when they talk about spending 10,000 a day lately and DD is getting a $10 gift for her birthday lol! But it is what it is.

So nobody would feel a bit bad about that (the birthday scenario?) Gosh, I feel evil lol! I don't really look at dollar value of gifts but that stings just a bit.

We went to visit today and we are totally fine lol! They are good people, just different.

My Dad makes just under a million a year in salary and has stock options worth maybe 3 million. I totally don't expect anything monetary from my family at all but we aren't very close right now. I grew up wealthy but never expected a free ride ( I paid for my own college, etc).

Do not ask me why I put expectations on DH's family I don't put on my own lol!

But really we were expecting a dinner out maybe? Oh well.

Good thing is I got $50 of my last $70 I lent MIL. She even had an extra 20 but needed it for cigs so I didn't get my whole 70 bucks lol! DH and I laughed in the car about that one.

jw87 · April 2013

If they are throwing what they bought in your face, I might mention it...

I never understood why someone would even buy a new car and be like, "OMGZ LOOK AT MY NEW CAR!" My parents do this and so do a few on the in-law side.

pastalady · April 2013

I think I just need to let it go lol! Thank God I vented here, got it out of my system.

We did decide to stop lending them money.

Socialworkgirl · April 2013

I read the thread earlier but didn't have a chance to comment. I would totally feel the same way that you feel. If either of my parents or my IL's won that much money, I wouldn't EXPECT them to give us anything but I feel certain they would an

2-Step · April 2013

My ILs recently came into an inheritance, not as big as that lotto winning, but fairly large. They gifted each of their kids $10k, which I thought was extremely generous. I never expected a dime, but when I thought about it, I would definitely do that

jw87 · April 2013

2-Step:
My greatest fear is that my ILs will someday depend on me for support and I won't have the heart to say no, but I will pr

pastalady · April 2013

2-Step:
My ILs recently came into an inheritance, not as big as that lotto winning, but fairly large. They gifted each of thei

Timshel17 · April 2013

I wouldn't expect money and I think we're pretty giving people, but I wouldn't give my family a large sum of money unless they were in need. we'd give nicer gifts for birthdays and holidays, though. We'd put it in the bank and save it for retirement and

ta78 · April 2013

jw87:
If they are throwing what they bought in your face, I might mention it...

I never understood why s

Socialworkgirl · April 2013

Hav=Fath:
I dont' think you're one bit evil, I think it's a WHOLE lot easier for people to sit back and say "why golly no, I w

Dochas · April 2013

I don't think you're evil at all! I wouldn't just send checks to my siblings (5 of them!) until my windfall was divided evenly lol. But if I were older and had grandchildren I would definitely want to splurge on the family a little bit.

Ilumine · April 2013

Honestly, I get the resentment for their extravagence when you have saved their hiney over the last few years. THAT would annoy me.

My honest opinion is that you not give them a single cent ever again. We all know that they will blow

missmodeste · April 2013

What's shocking to me is that they are already retired at only 50, with financial problems.

I would hope they'd put their winnings to good use because 50 could be a long way to go before death.

They sound irresponsible and selfi