Still get the "why me?" feelings

Bayberry12 · April 2013

So it's almost been a year since we lost our daughter, and sometimes I still get a wave of why did this happen to me, to us. Why is it so easy for other to have happiness.

After a completely "normal" Saturday, DH and I walked to a little pizza place we had never been to before. Of course, we pass tons of parents with baby bjorns and strollers, but I can handle that now, it stings a little, but I just move past it.

While we are eating our pizza there is another couple with a little girl maybe one or two, I just try to ignore them, but they are the only other people in the tiny place. The waitress starts talking to them about the baby's eating habits, and tells them that she has 4 girls; a 10 year old, a two year old, a ONE YEAR OLD, AND A THREE WEEK OLD! WTF. That just makes me think, I could have had two babies by now.

I really just needed to vent. I know we can never really know what others are going through or have been through, but man, it was hard to hear that.

MAYashes86 · April 2013

I understand, it is really hard to think of where we should be in life by now. We should all have our precious babies in our arms. Situations like that really suck. Hurts so bad to think that our babies that we desperately wanted died, when others don't r

angelsnight · April 2013

I'm only two weeks out from our loss, but I'm not sure if the "why me" feelings ever really go away. I have a pretty big family, I've seen countless aunts, cousins and friends with multiple pregnancies...like you said we never really know what pe

Williamandshawnna · April 2013

So sorry. It all just sucks big time. I ask myself this question all the time.

HUGS

HullGut · April 2013

I'm sorry your dealing with this now. I try not to think like that but I do every once in awhile. I just don't get it, why did this have to happen to me. It helps me to realize I'm not the onl

Heatherhah · April 2013

Bayberry - It has been 18 months for me and I still have those "why me" times. It happens more than I would like to admit. I will always feel like a huge part of my heart is missing with out my DD here with us. I am so sorry hige hugs to you!!! You are no

Noethola · April 2013

Agree with all of you. It is so hard that it can be so easy for some (especially those that do not really want the children). It is hard when I hear pregnant women complaining that their baby is taking FOREVER to be born (when they

Bayberry12 · April 2013

angelsnight:
but I've never known anyone in my family or friends to have a late loss.
People announce they are pre

Bayberry12 · April 2013

HullGut:
It helps me to realize I'm not the only one, as ter

Bayberry12 · April 2013

Noethola:
I would have given anything to hear her cry once and to have her keep me up, and I wind up with little patienc

shandorfml2 · April 2013

I had a rough night last night with the why me's. I'm just so angry. It's not fair. I miss her. Everyone else I know has their babies...

jess123456 · April 2013

I definitely still feel this way. I still hold a lot anger and bitterness towards others who seem totally ungrateful for what they have. I guess it goes hand in hand with grief. You are definitely not alone in feeling this way.

sand&starfish · April 2013

I get this, and it's usually one of the harder feelings for me to overcome. It's just so unbelievable that it happened to me. I sometimes feel like I need to pinch myself for it to sink in. 3 other girls on my team at work were pregnant, they all had heal

a&aw12707 · April 2013

Huge hugs. I have that thought every. single. day. It sucks, and I hate that anyone else has to know how it feels. I honestly feel like the thought comes more the further from our loss I get, as strange as that is. Hugs again.

weddedwife · April 2013

......siggy warning......

I still feel this way sometimes and I'm 17 months out from my loss. I have moments where I am just in disbelief that this happened to us.

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