Anyone else lose friends since having first baby?

Eventmerlin · April 2013

So I'm the first if my group of friends to have a baby....they just don't seem to invite me to go out to group dinners (all couples) and I've said we can go , but I'm EBF so I said it would be great if baby can come sometimes as its easier to not have to worry about the whole pumping thing...plus she is a great baby...we have been invited once I also am on maternity leave and I've asked them all to stop by and chat or get together to go grab coffee(I live in an apartment on a horse farm.... All my friends keep their horses here....they r here almost every day) ....have any stopped by? One once it's just wierd...they all like babies and are planning on their own within 2 years....wth? I guess they will realize once they have a baby what it's like life is different after you have a baby...they are still living their own life for only themselves....I've started trying to make more friends that have babies

Anyone else have similar situations or advice if you are a stm?

PandasMama0626 · April 2013

Oh man do I know how you feel! lol. I was the first of all my friends to start having kids too (same with the hubby out of his friends) and we pretty much lost all our friends. They just pulled away since we were no longer bar hopping, having parties a

Bride-hilda · April 2013

I'm not the first or last out of my friends to have a baby, but marriage and kids does take it's toll on friendships as does life! My friends and I started drifting apart once we all just started growing up! We quickly realized that some of us liked to dr

ashbasler · April 2013

Unfortunately I can relate. I don't keep a lot of close friends. I have a bunch of cousins that I'm super close with but I had someone outside of family that I considered to be my best friend. Well when I had Caroline, said friend never came to visit at t

Renee1105 · April 2013

Not to be snarky but maybe your friends don't want your baby to come to an all couples night out, no matter how well behaved LO is. I have a baby and sometimes I want to go out without her. I'm sorry they haven't come much to visit but I just wanted to gi

artroyer · April 2013

We definitely aren't invited out as much with our large group of friends, but we are the first of the immediate group to have a baby. There's another on the way and probably more next year. Things will change a lot within the group, I'm sur

schwabmomma · April 2013

I have to agree with what PPs have said. Parenthood changes everything, including the company you keep. My only advice, make new friends that are also moms. I've started introducing myself to other moms in my neighborhood who are at the park or out walkin

Puck1182 · April 2013

... I must be the exception to the rule. I've still been hanging out with my single/newly-married-and-not-yet-parents friends on a fairly regular basis. Maybe it's just that we are all SO similar in terms of personality and somewhat off-bea

Karla CS · April 2013

I lost my best friend while I was still pregnant.. She's planning a destination wedding in Puerto Rico, and DH and I don't feel that 10+ hours of travel each way, followed by 4-5 days in what's essentially not America with a 3 month old, when neither o

sararn2004 · April 2013

Karla CS:
I lost my best friend while I was still pregnant.. She's planning a destination wedding in Puerto Rico, and DH and I

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