Does it make me a bad person

jjkaye · April 2013

If the idea of being a stay at home mom doesn't appeal to me whatsoever?

Maybe it will change once I have the baby?

I love my job, and I've worked really hard to get here. I feel kind of guilty when people ask me if I'm going back to work after the baby is born and I enthusiastically say "YES!"

I feel like I'm judged (not around here, just generally speaking) because if given the opportunity to stay home, I don't think I'd take it, and that seems to be the wrong answer! Anyone else in my boat?

jjkaye · April 2013

** I am not implying that anyone who stays at home did NOT work hard in any way whatsoever- I think I said that wrong. I think it's amazing that some women are afforded the opportunity to stay home with their kids if they want to and have ALL the respe

kje120 · April 2013

There are times that I wish I could be a SAHM, but after days like yesterday I am happy to drop him off at daycare and get a break Smile

ravenclaw1 · April 2013

to each his own. I know a lot of women like that, and I don't think it makes you a bad person in the least.

I know, personally, that raising a child and being a SAHM has always been what I wanted, so it's never been a question for me. But working

1234Nevaeh · April 2013

definitely not. that would never make you a bad person. some people are fit to the multitasking of baby, job and everything else. others would rather relax, be home with baby, and get the house straightened up. completely an individual thing. Other

andy711 · April 2013

I can relate to this. I love working and wouldn't have it any other way. I don't feel like we should feel bad about that but I do when I get so many questions from people and they seem surprised by answer since we will be having twins and have our 2 yo DD

inthelost · April 2013

no it doesn't make you a bad person. i always said when i had a child, i still wanted to work part-time, but not full time. get the best of both worlds. however though, since i'm going to be a single mother, i'll have no choice but to work full time. both

jeb2013 · April 2013

My friend that just had a baby said she couldn't be a stay at home mom but as soon as her little girl came she didn't want to go back to work. So she is taking her maternity leave and thinking about it.

bexsd · April 2013

I think part time will be ideal for me, and that's what I am hoping I can do. I think I am also the kind of person who needs my own time and projects outside of the home, but 40 hours plus commute feels like too much. Hopefully I can make the part time th

TristaD81 · April 2013

Absolutely not. Actually,I think it's really great that you already know this about yourself. Happy mama equals Happy baby. If it makes you Happy to go to work, then do it. Kids pick up on those things very early, and it is so much better than SAH because

PrettyInPearls23 · April 2013

Not at all, and I feel the same way. I was home on maternity leave with DS for 10 weeks, and by week 8 I was ready to go back to work. It's not that I didn't enjoy my bonding time with DS, I just craved that adult interaction. Coming into the office e

Tally879 · April 2013

I don't think it makes you a bad person. My dad asked me if I planned on going back to work after the baby came. I never ever expected that question, without a doubt I was going back to work. I've worked really hard and put in some helli

Shanmarie1083 · April 2013

ravenclaw1:
to each his own. I know a lot of women like that, and I don't think it makes you a bad person in the least.

princessvespa1 · April 2013

Definitely not! I always thought I wanted to be a SAHM, then I was one for a bit and I realized how much it was NOT for me.

staceymack · April 2013

I do not have any experience with leaving a LO at home yet, but I have been saying the same as you. I have worked very hard to get where I am and enjoy what I do. I am hoping I can manage both worlds. I work with many successful women that are mothers as

Curls218 · April 2013

I had to have a long talk with DH about this because I also LOVE my job. I figure once we have a second I'll probably stay home, but for now I'm ok putting my kid in daycare and still having my career.

Though I also said I'd reev

Habs2Hart · April 2013

A friend of mine and I were talking about this yesterday. Technically, I get a year of mat leave up here, but I won't be taking it all. I LOVE my job. I just started my own business and am in the process of switching over from working

DFico21 · April 2013

Absolutely not! I feel the same way, I always knew that is what I wanted. People judge no matter what you choose. Be happy you are in a position to do what you want. I know many moms who want to stay home and can't and I know many

kennazebrowsky · April 2013

I do not think so. I tried it with my first. I loved being with him but not having adult interaction became highly depressing for me. I love having a job and having time for myself. I feel that I have to take time for me so that I can be a good mom. </

RunningGal900 · April 2013

jjkaye:
If the idea of being a stay at home mom doesn't appeal to me whatsoever?
Maybe it will change once I have the ba

daileym · April 2013

I think a happy and fulfilled Mom makes for a happy child. If being a working Mom or a SAHM makes you happy, that is what's best for your family. They have done so many studies in the difference between kids who had a SAHM or working Mom and there was

mmdd20 · April 2013

I got to experience being a SAHM for 4 months after being laid off when DS was 8 months old. To be honest, I am so thankful for that time with him, but was happy to head back to work.

I love my son more than life itself and treasure every secon

1026pumpkin · April 2013

Not at all! And honestly, after seeing how much DS has gotten out of a daycare program, we would still send him (at least part-time), even if we won the lotto and working and money were no object.

He has great socialization skills, they int

OpheliaChem · April 2013

Not at all. I, too, like my job and would never want to SAH, even though I relish the 10 weeks of summer break I get. I have the perfect mix of work and SAHM with my DD though, since I'm a teacher. I think you and I are in the minority because most women

sprocketsmom · April 2013

I've done both, and they are both hard for different reasons. And truthfully, people find a reason to judge you regardless of what you do. If you know that you'll be happier going back to work, don't let people make you feel guilty about that. I am a SAHM

VitaLuna · April 2013

This is me 100%. I worked very hard for my career, I'm not going to give it up. Plus, I don't have any desire to stay at home FT. I want my own money, my equal (although it's way more than that) contribution to the household income, a daily identi

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