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smithpaintsmithpaint member
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Adoption is such a heated topic, and I have no idea why.  I get told all the time horror adoption stories where people sent tons of $ and ended up with no kid.  Or I hear how the children are hellions and are going to ruin our lives, our children's lives and our financial stability. 

The boy we are adopting is blind - so that just starts a whole other wonderful array of replies.  He will always live with us (or so we are told).  We will always have to take care of him.  He is going to be such a burden. 

 It seems that so many people are against adoption.  I just don't get it.  Then there is the wonderful international adoption versus domestic adoption.  We are adopting internationally because we fell in love with this little guy who isn't in the US.  But a lot of people don't like that we're doing IA and say we should help a kid from the US. 

Venting over - all I know is that there are millions of children in need of families, and I want to help one child, maybe more some day. 

 

 

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  • CaptainSeriousCaptainSerious member

    I never knew how many people were opposed to adoption until we started our process.  I still can't understand it.

    Now I understand that many are simply ill-informed and/or have no desire to change their views based on new information.  

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  • Dr.LorettaDr.Loretta member

    How timely. This was on my FB feed today:

     

    https://www.whattoexpect.com/wom/baby/5-things-you-should-never-say-to-a-parent-who

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  • IRRIRR member
    imageDr.Loretta:

    How timely. This was on my FB feed today:

     

    <a href="https://www.whattoexpect.com/wom/baby/5-thing

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    Moved on to  gestational surrogacy with a family friend who is our angel and due 7/23/15


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  • mtenderemtendere member
    I don't understand people. We have friends adopting a 7 year old girl from China and I've only heard negative comments from people. It's not what we are going to choose, but I can't imagine why people can't be supportive instead of critical.
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  • crene84crene84 member
    We were so lucky to have very supportive friends and family, but I do know so many people are so negative about adoption.  I am so amazed by those of you who are adopting special needs children.  It really is so admirable and I think it's wonder
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  • ellekaeellekae member

    I was surprised, too, by the negativity about adoption. I had no idea that there were people who were so against adoption or ignorant about how to talk about it. I actually wrote a blog post about it last year.

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  • smithpaintsmithpaint member
    Thanks everyone for your responses.  I just have a hard time with certain family members and friends who have been difficult to say the least.  I let it get to me today which I shouldn't do.

     

     

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  • KirstybabyKirstybaby member

    I'm sorry.  Family members are the ones who should be the most supportive of you, but sometimes they end up being the least supportive.  It doesn't make it right though--some people are very selfish.

    Should people always strive

    I'm a dance studio owner, writer, cat mommy, and adventuress who is married to the man of her dreams. My husband and I have had a long-time dream to adopt and it's happening in a way that we didn't quite anticipate. But, like any move of God, it's turning out way better than we expected. We'd love for you to follow our story at www.kirstenkline.com!
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  • fireflychaserfireflychaser

    People can be such as*holes.  They may not mean to be, but ignorant comments hurt; how sad is it that we have to steel ourselves against the comments when they are in the wrong?! Drives me batty.  

    I hope you can find the courage to spe

    somewhere, something incredible is waiting to be known. -Carl Sagan
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  • irismorningirismorning member
    imageDr.Loretta:

    How timely. This was on my FB feed today:

    <a href="https://www.whattoexpect.com/wom/baby/5-things-you-should-

    Mother of two wonderful boys! Blessed through adoption.

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  • irismorningirismorning member
    You are doing the right thing for your family. Will it change your lives forever? Yes. Would another biological child do the same thing? Yes. I actually got to the point in my journey that I would respond to repeated comments by the same people "Wow, you

    Mother of two wonderful boys! Blessed through adoption.

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