Anyone else feel guilty?

mommytoconnor · April 2013

I am a single mom who adopted my son almost 2 yrs ago. I always thought I would have/adopt more than one, but he has been so much work that I am not sure I can handle another one, at least not right now, my son has some special needs. I feel unbelievably guilty about this like I am "robbing" him of a sibling. Does anyone else feel like this and does this feeling pass. I personally am fine with just one, although I would love another one, but feel bad for him.

carrotsoup70 · April 2013

This is where I am coming from...I have 3 siblings, my DH has 2. We both have good relationships with all of them. My best friend is an only child and has a lot on her shoulders in regards to her parents and her life in general. Her support system is

ferris0906 · April 2013

Nope. Not one bit. I do not really understand why you would feel bad for him at all. What specifically is making you feel this way?

On another note, as I said in another post below, I believe 100% in NEVER making a decision base

Chapter79 · April 2013

No, I don't feel guilty or bad for her. As I've said numerous times, giving them a sibling does not guarantee a single thing. Not all siblings get along. Also? You can't choose your siblings

Friends? Those you can choose. And she has

MonkeySender · April 2013

I don't feel guilty that she doesn't have a sibling. It would take away from the time I am able to spend with her. It would also limit out finances and we wouldn't be able to afford things like art class and Mom's Day Out where she gets to play with other

aeh72 · April 2013

You are not alone in this feeling. We are not 100% OAD but most likely will be due to our ages. I understand what pps are saying about reasons they don't feel guilty and I'm hoping I get to that place too but, right now, I do have a sense o

mommytoconnor · April 2013

ferris0906:

Nope. Not one bit. I do not really understand why you would feel bad for him at all. What spe

ferris0906 · April 2013

mommytoconnor:
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kaidekka · April 2013

What, exactly, do you feel you'd be "robbing" him of?

I don't feel guilty, but I do wonder sometimes what it will be like for DD to grow up without siblings. Because I have two siblings that I'm very clo

missymo · April 2013

Honestly, I personally have never felt that I was robbing my daughter by not providing her with a sibling. If anything, I fear she will be too spoiled.

I am extremely close with my two sisters and my brother, but my daughter is going to le

MamatoA2010 · April 2013

I do sometimes feel guilty but I'm in the middle of a divorce and I'm 36 years old so OAD for me. My DD is happy, healthy and perfect and I"m not a baby person at all. I am 90% sure I'm OAD. GL with whatever you decide!

Divallyn · April 2013

No, is one area of being OAD that I do not struggle with. I have two older sisters that made my life a living hell growing up and wished numerous times I was a only child. I recall this being the norm for my friends too. My coworkers tell me all the time

salt78 · April 2013

Having more children because you are mentally/financially/etc able to handle it = good.

Having a child simply to serve as a playmate for your existing child = bad.

I wish people wouldn't feel bad for only children. There is nothing wrong w

kristennd · April 2013

We don't feel guilty now. We just worry regularly about how we'll feel guilty if/when he asks for a sibling.

Chapter79 · April 2013

kristennd:
We don't feel guilty now. We just worry regularly about how we'll feel guilty if/when he asks for a sibling.
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Sunidaze · April 2013

mommytoconnor:
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Aurora_Borealis · April 2013

No guilt here.

I'm thrilled that I am able to stay home with my only and that DH & I will be able to afford travel, private school and activities that would not be possible if we had more than one. So I would more likely feel guilty if I had

Fianschneid · April 2013

I only feel guilty when I think of DH and I getting older and passing away. I worry about DD having to deal with that all on her own. Hopefully, over a lifetime, we'll give her the tools and strength to handle it as best she can, though.

luckymrs718 · April 2013

I don't feel guilty. But I do often feel bad knowing that when DH and I are old and need help it will all fall on her. DH is his dad's only child, so I am feeling firsthand how it may be for her. FIL is also deaf so DH has to take care o