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Anyone estranged from their family?

FierceSymoneFierceSymone
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Just wondering.

 This is something that's been on my mind for a while now. After having my first child a month before my 18th birthday, things were even worse between my parents and I. My parents have said a lot of terrible things to me, my mom kicked me out of her house, which ultimately led to my boyfriend's mother taking me and my daughter in to live with her and her family (which was a PACKED home).  It took me a while to forgive my parents and try to have a relationship with them, while allowing them to see my daughter. It definitely helped that I no longer lived at home and eventually moved into my own house with my boyfriend, the father of my daughter. However, years have passed, we have a son now as well, and we are still on our own. However, I recently lost my job and ever since then my parents have went back to saying horrible things about me. My dad is saying things like "You seem like you're focusing on other things than taking care of your family." Which I can't believe he said because we aren't very close and he doesn't know anything personal about me, really. I was very offended that he would say that to me. Also, my mom called me about two months ago, after she found out I lost my job, and she started saying horrible things about me and my family. Ever since then, I haven't spoken to her. I was very upset and refuse to continue dealing with negative, hurtful people. Just because you gave birth to me doesn't mean that we are family. At this point in my life, I feel that family is the people who show that they care about you and love you unconditionally and unfortunately that is not my parents.

So after not speaking to her or seeing her for two months, my dad calls me to deliver messages from her. She is saying things like she wants to have a birthday party for my daughter and she wants me to call her. I told my dad to stop delivering messages from her because if she cared about me, she would have called me- not deliver messages. Especially wit her knowing I've lost my job, she oculd have at least checked in to see how me and my family was doing at some point or offered some sort of assistance, but of course, she wouldn't do that. She only calls to say how much she doesn't like me, basically and how I'm a screw up.

I feel like I want nothing to do with my family ever again, honestly. I am done with being hurt. I haven't gone into total detail of every single thing they said to me, but I can guarantee that you wouldn't want to say those things to your child as a parent. I am ready to complete school and never associate with my family again.

I am wondering if there is anyone here who has had to cut off communication with their families and how has it worked out for you?

Thanks.

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  • BoopADoopBettyBoopADoopBetty member

    I haven't cut off completely, but communication between my dad and I has diminished a great amount. TBH I'm the type of person that if you're hurtful or negative, I want nothing to do with you. Misery loves company, and people like that will always bri

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    imageBoopADoopBetty:

    I haven't cut off completely, but communication between my dad and I has diminished a great amount. TBH I'm th

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  • BoopADoopBettyBoopADoopBetty member
    I'm close to my mom, and live somewhat near her. As for my dad, he lives far enough away that I rarely see him. The only time really is some but not all holidays. I only put forth the effort when I know my grandfather is with him, because I still love him

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  • SunnyMeg1SunnyMeg1 member

    I'm sorry you're going through this. Not being able to have family support is so hard.

    We currently don't have much of a relationship with my in-laws. We don't speak to FIL at all and contact with MIL is limited mostly because of FIL. It kills me

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  • thepretzelchickthepretzelchick member

    I'm so sorry you're in this predicament, sweetie. It sucks. I can't say that I know exactly how you feel or am in the same situation, but my husband and I are estranged from his sister and her family. Besides my parents, my SIL and her family are the o

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