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babymama619babymama619 member
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Hello new friends. I"m hoping I can find some support on this board because even though I have a great support system, I don't think people really understand what I"m going through unless they have been there.

I am just over 7 week pregnant and I have my first OB appointment tomorrow. I found out about a week and a half ago and I was shocked because the guy I was sleeping with (not dating) had a vasectomy. We have been hooking up for the better part of a year and recently decided to give up condoms. Well, surprise!

Once I found out I did a little sleuthing to find out a little more about him. I never really cared before because we were just friends with benefits. It turns out he is not single like he said, he's married! Not only that, he lied about his last name and I'm pretty sure the vasectomy because his wife has a 4 moth old daughter! I also found out he has dated at least two other women in the last 2 years. 

I would like to point out that I did NOT meet this man on the internet!! He's a children's librarian! I was a nanny and that's how I met him.

So...now I don't know what life holds. I ended up texting him about the BFP and the first OB appointment tomorrow. At first he claimed he was sterile then said he needed DNA before he gets involved. He's the only option so that will not be a problem.  

I get it, but wow! I am fine with being a single mother and I have even considered sperm donors but I never imagined that the father to my baby would be a sleazy liar that lives 10 minutes away with three kids (two from a previous marriage). I've been a nanny for 15+ years so I know how to care for children, so that's not a problem. Right now though I'm student teaching which means ZERO income.  

So here I am, seemingly with my sh!t together - 33 years old, two master's degrees, single, with a dog...then I end up pregnant by a lying man denying paternity  and making no money so I have to go on medicaid. Not exactly where I thought my life was heading. 

It's just a lot to process....  


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Re: New here :)

  • CrolinerCroliner
    Hi, I can identify with parts of your story. Especially the part where all of your *** was together and then a pregnancy changes everything. I feel though, that overall, we have our *** together and that is what will play out in the long run. We have to t
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  • kennazebrowskykennazebrowsky member

    Wow. Good luck. At least you have your life together. I am sure you will do great- you sound level headed.

     

    Fight him for that DNA test and child support. Remember it is not your fault he ruined his marriage- he lied to you completel

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  • inthelostinthelost member
    wow, he's a douchebag on a whole other level. first of all it's NOT your fault, you didn't know. second, stop seeing him immediately. Get the DNA test done too, to prove it to him and fight for support from him. You seem to have a lot going for you, very
    Liliana Seraphina born 9/5/2103


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