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Anyone not 100% sure anymore?

SleepingBeauty79SleepingBeauty79 member
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I have a 4 and a half year old son. He was difficult in many ways and I always said that I?m never having anymore. Right now I think I?m 95% sure because I see how much better it is getting as he gets older. Problem is I will be 35 in a few months, therefore, I don?t have time to ponder. I just don?t know what to do. I?m afraid I will regret it either way. Anyone else in this situation. Hubby does want more kids w/o a doubt. I always said no because I?m not sure if I will be able to handle the stress of working FT and then coming home to 2 and also the strain on finances. Please tell me your feedback.

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  • SleepingBeauty79SleepingBeauty79 member

     

    No, my hubby DOES want more w/o a doubt.  I'm just thinking we will never retire. Its just so expensive, but what if I dont have anymore and I regret it the rest of my life?

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  • SmileyJaySmileyJay member

    I don't have a leg to stand on in this discussion since I don't have children yet; however, my advice is that if it is doable (financially and emotionally), your marriage is strong, your husband wants a 2nd, and you are feeling even mostly sure that yo

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  • Chapter79Chapter79 member

    I don't have much advice, I'm most definitely not in this boat.  We are 500% done and sure... which is why DH got a vasectomy when our kiddo was just 2. We never had doubts, and never regretted his snip. 

    Really, only you and your husb

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  • missymomissymo member
    Don't live with regret. Make a pro and con list and determine what is best for your family and YOU. You won't hurt your child by being OAD, nor will you hurt him by having more children.

    Just do what is best for your family.

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  • DivallynDivallyn member

    We are sure. I hope that doesn't change as time goes on as I really like being OAD. 

    I think of it this way .... If I waiver at all then I am not going to have a another child unless I am sure that is what I want as its something that you ca

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  • jb2rnjb2rn member

    imagemissymo:
    Don't live with regret. Make a pro and con list and determine what is best for your family and YOU. You won't hurt yo
    b/w=FSH 15.6, AMH 0.4 surprise natural BFP on 3/12/11
    DS born via unplanned C-section at 40w6d

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  • SunidazeSunidaze member

    I don't know that I will ever be 100% sure - if I were younger (40 in less than *gasp!* two weeks) then it would be much more likely that we would have another.  However, unless there is an oops. 

    The logical part of me says to...wel

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