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pregnancy guilt

KatetheGreat79KatetheGreat79 member
in July 2013 Moms

So I am writing this post because I'm thinking I can't be the only one who is dealing with this. Lately I have been feeling so guilty about all the 'un-perfect' things I've done during pregnancy. As I've posted before, I went off my Zoloft right when I got my BFP, so I think the first tri was a really big adjustment time for me. I was dealing with some depression, not to mention dh was out of the country and I had horribly all day sickness. All of these factors left me exhausted, overwhelmed and not very well equipped to make super healthy choices. Sometime a coke was the only thing that got me through the work day. Sometimes (actually many times) a McChicken sandwich was all I could stomach. Sometimes I forgot those prenatals for a couple days at a time. Sometimes I let stress get the best of me.

As I got into the second trimester and started to feel better, I was able to make way better choices. I take my dog on walks daily so I can exercise some, I eat vegetables regularly, I drink tea rather than coke. So really, I should probably feel good, right? Unfortunately that worrisome side of me can't shake the guilt that I didn't provide the optimal environment for baby the whole time. I think to myself, what if something ends up wrong with this little guy? Will I blame myself, will I become depressed with guilt? 

I think it's easy for me to go to worse the case scenario... My sweet little baby could have something wrong, and it could be all my fault. But I suppose it's part of life to just realized that you weren't perfect, you maybe should have done a little better, but circumstances just made it really hard to do that. So this post is my trying to encourage myself, but also an encouragement to anyone else out there experiencing pregnancy guilt or worry.

 

 

 

 

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  • alexandra1818alexandra1818 member

    Big hugs, OP.

    If it helps, you're certainly not the only one that's feeling guilty... though I'm feeling it for different reasons.  I'm hoping that maybe putting it down and getting it out there may help me deal with the feelings a bit.

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  • MrsMcC.10409MrsMcC.10409 member

    I'm sorry you're having a hard time. I completely understand were you're at. I hope things are smoothing out for you and you've developed a support system that is helping you through while you're off the zoloft. All the best to you mama.

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    When I was 14 weeks I rode a roller coaster, ate rare steak and unpasteurized cheese, drank a glass of wine, went in a hot tub... and that was all in one day. Yes, we were on vacation slash our honeymoon, but I felt like the worst mother ever later that w
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  • Liz4444Liz4444 member

    Hugs Kate!  Are you going to talk to a therapist?  I went off Zoloft with my first pregnancy and had a really hard time.  They put me back on in my second trimester and it really helped.  I never went off it this time and honestly,

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  • PrimRoseMamaPrimRoseMama member

    Pregnancy guilt is normal, so you aren't an anxious freak or anything. Don't worry. I mean, my first pregnancy I was a worry wart too but this time I'm a lot more relaxed because its just so taxing to be keyed up all the time. Give yourself a break if


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  • KTZ17KTZ17 member
    You did such a great job telling me not to worry about my toothpaste freak out!!  You need to take your own advice :-). It sounds like you're taking good care of yourself and your baby.  Obviously we all worry.  Someone at work today told m

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  • dearlesliedearleslie member
    Thank you for this post!!  I was feeling the same exact way and all the words of encouragement here for the original post have made me feel much better and more relaxed.  
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  • KikiCohenKikiCohen member

    (hugs)  I struggle with this too. 

    Drinking Coke was sometimes all that would settle my nausea.  If I didn't have a little, I wouldn't have been able to eat anything at all and I know that wouldn't have been good. 

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