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ferris0906ferris0906 member
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In this article the woman says having kids was the biggest mistake of her life:

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-2303588/The-mother-says-having-children-biggest-regret-life.html?2

However, where I was most shocked was here:

"Two years and four months after Stuart was born, I had my daughter Jo. It may seem perverse that I had a second child in view of my aversion to them, but I believe it is utterly selfish to have an only one."

 Seriously?  Can someone help me process this?

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  • Chapter79Chapter79 member

    Well then. I can't even process this whole article.  I'm not sure how having one is selfish than having children when you don't want them at all, and have no shame in saying you wish they were never born. That's way more selfish to me.  Why t

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    I like the part where she brought her son and dog to a shop (in the stroller, dog attached to it) and accidentally left them there.  And was more amiss about the dog, and noticed the dog was gone before she realized she left her son.

    Wow. Cl

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  • missymomissymo member
    There are a lot of people out there that have the wrong idea about a lot of things. This lady is yet another one!


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    imageChapter79:
    I like the part where she brought her son and dog to a shop in the stroller, dog attached to it and accidentally left th

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  • KaliChickKaliChick member

    Wow, just wow!  There's all kinds of fun in this one ... working moms, especially those who went through fertility treatments are horrible in her opinion, having children was a huge mistake ... and yet, she had 2, quite easily from the sounds of i

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  • eyenigheyenigh member
    Ugh. I hate this woman. She's so proud of how disconnected she is from her children and then goes on to judge women who go back to work? So it's only acceptable to hate your children and stay home? I feel bad for her kids if they read that article. 
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  • salt78salt78 member
    So having an only child is selfish, but it's not at all selfish to have another child that you consider to be a parasite? Got it.
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  • MonkeySenderMonkeySender member
    Sad Some people just don't bond with their kids, and I find it strange and do not understand. DH hasn't seen his bio mom since he was 3 months old. She has never made any effort t
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  • SonadoraSonadora member

    Someone told me the other day that baring health/IF issues that prevent you from having more, all children deserve a sibling and it's your duty to provide one.

    Ouch.  I will never understand why people have such a rosy outlook on siblings.

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  • EastCoastBrideEastCoastBride member

    And then there's this gem:

     

    I cannot understand mothers who insist they want children - especially those who undergo years of fertility treatment - then race back to work at the earliest op

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    imageSonadora:

    Someone told me the other day that baring health/IF issues that prevent you from having more, all children deserve a

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  • mishelemishele member

    This self important dbag makes me stab

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  • EastCoastBrideEastCoastBride member

    I also find it sad that she feels they "didn't give back".  A- that's not why you have kids (wanna talk about selfish?  EXPECTING "something" from your kids would be just that), and B- I'm sure we can all list out the many things that our kid

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  • MAtoNCMAtoNC member

    I pity this woman. Honestly. The fact that she did not have it in her to appreciate what her children had to offer her when they were young is just...sad. The reality is that not everyone is meant to parent. She never wanted children. I think it was in

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  • MommyKayla11MommyKayla11 member
    Wtf is all I can ask.
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